"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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eye contact and approaching??

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sportf190

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alright guys heres the deal when you see a cute girl of course you look at her but when she looks at you are you suppose to hold eye contact and smile and keep looking until she breaks it or should you look away then look back then talk if shes still looking? whats the deal here with initial attraction
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Keep looking at her until she breaks the eye contact. Definitely smile too cuz if you have a serious face she'll probably get creeped out. And if she smiles back at you got for it!
 
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sportf190

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gotcha i usually break it first because i think im better then them and dont want them to think that i need them u kno what im saying???
 

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sportf190 said:
gotcha i usually break it first because i think im better then them and dont want them to think that i need them u kno what im saying???
But breaking it does not mean you are better than them, it means that you don't have as much confidence. Honestly. When I feel the most confident, I can stare down a girl for a long time, and guess what....I then approach them and almost always get good responses.

I used to have your mindset too, but trust me, IT DOESN'T GET YOU ANYTHING. Just because you approach a girl your interested in doesnt mean you are desperate. Hell, some people on here may have girlfriends already but would still approach a HB. When you attract the girl and get to know her better she'll understand for herself that you have enough going on in your life and she would just be the icing on the cake. WHat she doesnt know is that you are gaming other chicks as well, and you have more than a couple options:up:
 
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sportf190

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soudns good i need to get this mindset out of my headd its ridicoulus sounds like i expect too much from girls and i need to stop being a ****y person and start approaching more and get them
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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the only thing that gets me nervous is *****y girls wen there like wtf is he lookin at also like why does he keep staring
 

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Great question not often enough asked. This is the road to riches. I'm still debugging (sorry, geek-lingo) this one.

I never stare at her. I look at her first. If she glances at me and goes back to what she was doing I change position.

I then make sure she sees me looking at her. When I moved, I am kind of turned a bit away, not directly facing her. I look at her sort of over my shoulder.

If she doesn't look back at me in 10 sec, then I'm gone. I could learn more about body language at this stage. If she's really nervous, it seems that I need to back off a bit.

What I wait for is her to look up again, and then I smile at her and give that glint in the eye. Causing your eyes to glint takes practice. Try doing it in the mirror. Women respond to eyes.

If she smiles back, I'll move towards her. If she doesn't move, I speak to her about something really informational like 'do you know where the sex books are?' Ok, maybe not that, but I try to ask a really stupid question that gets them laughing. Sometimes I back off and sort of move away briefly at that stage.

I see if she is looking for me. That's interest level, big time. I move back around and say the same dumb thing I said before. This sounds totally stupid but it has worked.

If I feel that she is really interested, not just amused I'll turn up the heat on her. I'll make fun of her shoes. Boy those are the biggest feet I've ever seen! While pointing to a book on pengiuns.

Stupid and silly I know.

Then I ask if she likes to work out, likes art, likes gardens, WHATEVER. I have places I know to go ready. Most cities have a botanical garden. They are often free and there is no money involved. Of course I have my cell phone and get her number.

I DO make plans to meet her right then. Once a time and place is settled, then I depart. Sometimes she just says no, I'm kind of busy, sorry. I say, OK, nice meeting you.

Success rate, maybe 10%.
 

beastmaster79

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so if a hot girls looks at you and you quickly look away does that make you think the hot girl is weird? of course not. she knows she is an intimidating hottie and she knows you are a *****.
 
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