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This post is my own opinion, I'm not a psychologist...so don't take what I say as fact.
Most of the problems I see guys suffering in here and in general when it comes to women is they are introverts and they either don't want to admit it or they don't know how to utilise it.
Most of society caters to extroverts (mostly for reasons in bold above) and there is little TRUE information on introverts.
The first misconception is that extroversion and introversion are fixed. I believe that they often fluctuate, however everyone is predominantly in one category or the other (some are more extroverted/introverted than others).
Most people on here are introverts including myself.
Carl Jung came up with the concept and since then it's been misused left, right and center.
Extroverts AREN'T necessarily people who are "outgoing" and like to socialise with parties etc all the time.
Introverts AREN'T necessarily people who are quiet and like to stay indoors, have few friends and hate going out.
The (biggest) difference between extroverts and introverts is how they get their energy.
Extroverts live life from the outside in. They get ENERGY when being around people and perhaps feel the most comfortable when around people. If extroverts don't use their their time around others effectively they tend to feel UNCOMFORTABLE when alone. However, everyone needs sometime alone...extroverts should use their effective time with people to get the energy to be alone.
Introverts live life from the inside out, they get their energy when being alone, if they DON'T get a substantial amount of EFFECTIVE alone time then they can feel UNCOMFORTABLE around people. Humans need to interact with REAL people...introverts should use their effective time alone to interact with people.
UPDATE: Since I didn't put down any advice in my original post I will do so now.
Advice for introverts.
Build a base of safety and security
In my experience introverts are usually goal orientated. So whether it's your bedroom or another room. Design a room that inspires you and helps you become more confident when you go out. Make sure the room DOESN'T have a t.v., spending time alone watching t.v. is wasteful. I would recommend spending alone time self-educating and/or doing something that contributes to yourself financially. For example educating yourself on valuable topics and contributing what you've learnt on a blog or a website is one of the best things you can do.
Discipline and competence breeds CONFIDENCE.
Advice for Extroverts.
Build or join a group that's works on important projects
In my experience extroverts, don't tend to have any goals. So setting up or joining a group that has a goal is important. If you specialise in something this could be something you can do alone and contribute to the group once you've completed it. This will also give you the opportunity to reflect on what you've done and what you're doing with your life.
That's all I've got right now.
I welcome all senior dj's to contribute.
Most of the problems I see guys suffering in here and in general when it comes to women is they are introverts and they either don't want to admit it or they don't know how to utilise it.
Most of society caters to extroverts (mostly for reasons in bold above) and there is little TRUE information on introverts.
The first misconception is that extroversion and introversion are fixed. I believe that they often fluctuate, however everyone is predominantly in one category or the other (some are more extroverted/introverted than others).
Most people on here are introverts including myself.
Carl Jung came up with the concept and since then it's been misused left, right and center.
Extroverts AREN'T necessarily people who are "outgoing" and like to socialise with parties etc all the time.
Introverts AREN'T necessarily people who are quiet and like to stay indoors, have few friends and hate going out.
The (biggest) difference between extroverts and introverts is how they get their energy.
Extroverts live life from the outside in. They get ENERGY when being around people and perhaps feel the most comfortable when around people. If extroverts don't use their their time around others effectively they tend to feel UNCOMFORTABLE when alone. However, everyone needs sometime alone...extroverts should use their effective time with people to get the energy to be alone.
Introverts live life from the inside out, they get their energy when being alone, if they DON'T get a substantial amount of EFFECTIVE alone time then they can feel UNCOMFORTABLE around people. Humans need to interact with REAL people...introverts should use their effective time alone to interact with people.
UPDATE: Since I didn't put down any advice in my original post I will do so now.
Advice for introverts.
Build a base of safety and security
In my experience introverts are usually goal orientated. So whether it's your bedroom or another room. Design a room that inspires you and helps you become more confident when you go out. Make sure the room DOESN'T have a t.v., spending time alone watching t.v. is wasteful. I would recommend spending alone time self-educating and/or doing something that contributes to yourself financially. For example educating yourself on valuable topics and contributing what you've learnt on a blog or a website is one of the best things you can do.
Discipline and competence breeds CONFIDENCE.
Advice for Extroverts.
Build or join a group that's works on important projects
In my experience extroverts, don't tend to have any goals. So setting up or joining a group that has a goal is important. If you specialise in something this could be something you can do alone and contribute to the group once you've completed it. This will also give you the opportunity to reflect on what you've done and what you're doing with your life.
That's all I've got right now.
I welcome all senior dj's to contribute.
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