"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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sambwoy

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I used to go on AskMen, and I'm glad I was directed to this site.

Every so often on there you got the 'woe is me' threads, but the replies are often condescending and harsh, and its the OP who is told he needs cognitive behaviour therapy et al.

Whilst a lot of this OP's mindset is down to negative outlook and low self-esteem, other people are morons though. Society has got to a position where you have to risk overwhelming ridicule and cruelty in order to find love, as the public is desensitised through the quality of our TV. That awful 'Take Me Out' show, with all its double standards is a document of that, where groups of girls will criticize men in a way that it would be totally unacceptable if genders reversed.

Who is really at fault?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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