expressing anger and things that bother you.

[Revel]

Example. Tonight I just got home from work and in the living room was the girl I'm living with sitting there with my laptop. I keep it in my room and everyday I come home to see out in the living room, the same routine, She facebooks, youtubes and plays mickey avalon constantly.

Now I know what the simple answer is here. Just tell her not to go in my room anymore and leave my things alone.. So simple right?

Well Sh!T, for some damn f*cking reason Im scared to even tell her that. I get anxiety confronting people of little things that bother me. I recall one time going to LA on the greyhound bus and there was a obnoxious little prick behind me eatting chips loud as f(ck.. and the whole way i suffered excruciating irritation and literaly wanted to puke. I'm not sure why im so scared, I feel totaly weak here. On top of that, I have a fiery temper that only comes out when alot of anger builds up inside me, Im good at restraining myself. Thats never the issue, But these kinds of situations Im having with my roomate will slowly everyday make me more angry and i will eventualy blow up in her face. Probley leading to me moving out and loosing a friend..

Writing this motivated me to just suck it up and confront her. But I still have a really serious problem here probley on some deep psychological level. Im afraid of confrontation and expressing my feelings.

Anybody have any advice or can relate?

 

[Darth]

Just do it. If you let out your anger right when you are angry, then it doesn't have time to build up and fester.

I would practice releasing anger right at the moment when things make you angry. Here for practice:

Revel is a big pu$$y. He probably lives in his mother's basement, never touched a weight in his life, and likes to watch chick flicks and surf internet forums laying on his bed, flabby as hell, what a pathetic loser.

Now get back at me!

 

[Revel]

its easy letting out anger but I want to do in more classier way..
God knows how many of my relationships ended because of my failure to communicate. and yes, letting it build up untill it explodes.

pfft hope you get some form up cancer on your lip.

 

[Skalioppe]

I recently lost my temper with the woman who is my weakness. She deserved it, background here. The first time I've ever done it and I think it totally shocked her, I think it's killed our relationship. I'm torn between if it's the correct approach or not, but she fvcking deserved it and it was cathartic for me.

So what I'm saying is sometimes it's good for YOU!

 

[Revel]

Yes there is a line between standing up for yourself and just blind rage. My advice is when you loose your temper to someone and serously do some damage to the relationship, let it set and blow over. Simply apologize later and say you were out of line(depending on how far you took it) the second you kiss ass and feel all bad is what nails the coffin shut.