"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Alright, so my gf of 5 months was showing high interest level. txting, calling, sending me pics, her friend txting me saying she is always talking about me, wanting to spend alot of time together, talking about "our babies"... baby names...

I wasn't acting all AFC and emotional... i build rapport. And also used the term our kids...

Now she became a bit distant... less txts, calls. spend less time together... she when she talks about her future she doesn't say anything about me, and its now "her kids"

But, she is all happy when she is with me... I act the same as before. i don't show that it bothers me.

She said that she is sorry if she seems a bit dipressed this week beacuse all her friends are going away to UNI and she won't see her family and ****... she now lives in my city cuz she goes to UNI here.

So questions is... how come she getting distant as of late? **** test?

BTW she invited me to a family get together that is 2 months away and said i don't have to go but it would mean so much.

sex is still good.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Sounds like she is going through some stuff with her friends. Also you’re at the Mile Marker that usually sees a lot of the Romance of a new relationship disappear.

When a relationship is new the sky is the limit. Girls will plan their wedding, tell all their friends how amazing it is, and even picture having your babies. Just like a new toy it's appeal and romance goes away.

What you should do is get away. Take her and yourself to a place away from all the reality.

Go some place where you can have an adventure together. Bolder climbing, Cave Exploring, Mt. Biking, Camping, etc. Make sure it is far enough away to leave the depression of her friends leaving and keep it live. When she brings up the depressing stuff listen than change the subject.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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