explanation for being a "jerk"

[GitFiddler]

I wasn't exactly being a jerk, but I intentionally gave a girl the cold shoulder last night.

I met this HB8 about a month ago. I gamed her for a week, then took her to a show, made out, went home with her, and got LMR right before getting her panties off. I couldnt shmooze past it, so we went to sleep. The next night I had her back at my house, and the same damn thing happened, and I couldnt hide my frustration. I've since learned the Mystery Method of combating LMR, so hopefully that will never happen again.

A few days after that I was trying to get her back to my house, but she was getting swarmed by dudes, and wanted to 'party.' I told her I wasn't going to compete with everybody, and I was going home, and I left. I guess she took that as jealousy, and got an unspoken ljbf. She works at a place I frequent, and she's cool, and really didnt do me wrong, so I remained cool with her. My friend swooped her up after that, and they hung out for a week or two and got clingy, so she let him go. Just wanting to finish what I started, I turned my game back on after that, but another friend of mine has been outgaming me. Im considering this chick a "communal' peice of ass anyway, so Im not upset about it, but I am frustrated. Not girlfriend material, and way too much of a party girl, but she's hot and I want to hit it.

I tried to isolate her by getting food with her last night, and ended up with a couple of tag alongs, and when we got back, she was kind of hanging on my buddy. This is when I started being cold. Not a dyck, but more of a cold shoulder, but still saying hi. I start macking on a few other girls HARD. I was doing this ear thing (talking in her ear while your lips are actually touching the ear. Feels really cool.) with this one chick, and she said HB8 got pissed off and left for a while. I went home by myself anyway. And, she didn't leave with my buddy, BTW. She may have been getting the same treatment from both of us, cuz he was macking other girls too. Kind of funny.

My feelings are this: Im not closing the door, or burning a bridge. Neither one of us owes each other anything, and Im not gonna compete with my friends. She is a cool chick to hang with with, and she's been perfectly honest with me, so Im not gonna next her. If she wants it, she can come get it, basiclly. BUT, I will have to see her and she may ask me what my problem was with her last night. I want to have the best answer ready, and I'd like some help.

Right now I'm thinking about saying something like: "hey, I told you, Im not gonna compete with my friends for you, and Im not your 'girlfriend' and I wasn't really being a dyck anyway. you know what my intentions are, and if you want it, cool, and if not, thats cool too, but dont expect any special treatment, and I expect you to introduce me to your girlfriends, cuz you know Im a rad guy"

What to you guys think?

 

[WC2]

Well first things first, stop thinking about a CHICK so much.

First of all you're saying NEXT her, but from what you say, you really never had her. She's obviously still a party girl and is taking it from whatever direction is willing to give it (sorry to say).

I would move onto other things and stop trying to play jealousy games. We are men.. we don't need to play jealousy games; we naturally make women jealous.

The fact that shes been getting it from your friends and showing physical attraction to them in front of you gives me an even worser feeling about this chick. It doesn't sound to me like she's trying to make you jealous either.

Being a jerk isn't something we do on purpose. It just comes with the territory. We are men and we will do what we want, no matter what a woman says. She does not dictate our lives, we dictate them. This is where the famous line women use, "jerk", always comes from and should come from. We don't try to be jerks, but in our manliness they can't take the fact that we will not fold into their hands so easily.

Move on and start laying the pipe on other women. If she comes around, then use her for what she's worth until she shows otherwise. For now, shes nothing better than a piece of ass to be passed around.

 

[GitFiddler]

I wasn't trying to make her jealous, I was just doing my thing, and if it happens to make her jealous, than so be it, but I would have macked other girls anyway, so that wasn't my intention.

And no, I dont think shes trying to make me jealous either. She's free to hor around with whoever she wants, and so am I.

The fact is I see her all the time, and it's in my best interest to stay cool. I mack on any available women I can, whether its this chick, or her friends, or whoever. Shes just a plate. Thats all.

What I'm trying to avoid, is coming across like Im jealous, or I'm mad cuz she hooked up elsewhere. I dont want to look like 'that guy.' I've seen others do that, and its very afc. I want to come off as cool as possible if she asks me. If she doesn't, fine. We dont owe each other any explanations. She might not even care, but I want to be ready.

 

[WC2]

I wasn't trying to make her jealous, I was just doing my thing, and if it happens to make her jealous, than so be it, but I would have macked other girls anyway, so that wasn't my intention.

And no, I dont think shes trying to make me jealous either. She's free to hor around with whoever she wants, and so am I.

The fact is I see her all the time, and it's in my best interest to stay cool. I mack on any available women I can, whether its this chick, or her friends, or whoever. Shes just a plate. Thats all.

What I'm trying to avoid, is coming across like Im jealous, or I'm mad cuz she hooked up elsewhere. I dont want to look like 'that guy.' I've seen others do that, and its very afc. I want to come off as cool as possible if she asks me. If she doesn't, fine. We dont owe each other any explanations. She might not even care, but I want to be ready.

Well if you're really not set on this girl, then you won't come off jealous. You are what you are.

 

[GitFiddler]

Good point.

I think what I might do is throw the jealousy card back in her face, playfully of course, if she calls me on it.