"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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styleman

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I got talking to this girl in university, quite sexy, got her number, chilled in her dorm room (no sexual action, was the first day we spoke and the middle of the day, so even if she wanted it, I didn't because frankly I ddin't know her well enough) (I live in my own flat in a much better part of town, and didn't want her to know I was as wealthy as I am hence we went to her dorm room, which was closer to uni), got her number, called her and asked her to a house party that I was throwing about a week later, she said no.
I purposly avoid her for about a month, and she come back, asking where have you been? sits next to me, keeps chatting etc. and frankly I was not interested becuase I have better prospects at the moment...
The problem is, I feel bad blowing her off, I tried to chat and flirt a little, but I don't want anything from it....
So things to bear in mind...
1. I actually don't find her that attractive, although I did when I frist spoke to her....
2. The fact that she said no to coming to the party is, I think what thew me off her...
I wouldn't mind ****ing this girl a few times, but girls who reject my first offer to take them out don't normally get a second chance, that said, they don't normally come back to me either.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I think you already know what you want to do, since you did not even ask a question from all of us. Glad you sorted it out on your own!
 

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kyphan said:
I think you already know what you want to do, since you did not even ask a question from all of us. Glad you sorted it out on your own!
Leave her or give her a good ****ing and forget?
 

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NOW we have a question.

Leave her. Your first intuition is correct here, once you have been rejected it's time to move on. Anything else puts the ball in her court, and do you really want to spend time trying to nail this girl? Nah, not worth it. Use your time for worthy pursuits.
 
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