"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Explain why this is pissing me off...

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4 years ago, I was lead on by this chick, ended badly. Oh well, I moved on. I am now happily girlfriended for 10 months, and the thought of that other girl doesn't bother me at all.

But now, I find out that my best man, who was even with me when I was (I dont wan't to say heartbroken, but eh, you know) Is now dating the very same girl. Im over the girl, but this just keeps eating at me, and I don't know if it's my friend that is pissing me off, or what.

I tried to put it past me, but he'll just call me or something and blabble on for a miniute, and then let out with 'Oh, we're going to go do this and this.' And he KNOWS I don't like the girl.

So, currently, i've 'Next'd' my best friend just so i'll quit being reminded of the idea, and calm down.

But, if anyone can, eleborate on to WHY this was pissing me off. I thought I could get over this childish crap.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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man. you were 16 at the time, your in a relationship with someone ese now it was 4 years ago.

Grab your balls, and put ya feelings(wotever they are) for the chick and keep your friendship with your mate.
 
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dude the reason its pissing you off is this!
do you remember high school, when you liked a girl and she diddent know that you exist and you were pissed at her when she got asked out? well its just like that... your engaged and you cant have her, because its just not right... i sure if you trid you could get her but, its childish feelings... just try to drop them and grow out of that thought process.
 
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DO NOT GET RID OF YOUR FRIEND!
Are you serious? Over a girl you don't like? Come on man, be bigger than that.
 
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It was pissing you off because it was pissing you off.

But the reason why I think it's pissed you off is because you felt a bit vengeful towards the girl. You may feel betrayed by your friend, who knows. My hypothesis is that you want your friend to break up with the girl to hurt her....just like she hurt you (vegeance).
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Sigh.

You guys are right. I know it was just something that was going to take a little cool down time to get over. I was mad at him, but he has to understand that I still don't like her.

The thing of it is, I often hear advice from many posts of 'if they treat you like ****, stop being their friend'. Where does that line start?
 
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when they disrespect you. dating a chick u went out with 4 years ago is not disrespecting.

People change so much in 4 years, especially during teenage years. none of you are the same people you were at 16. just. let. go.
 
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you dated her 4 years ago, your not even the same people you were then

if it was 4 weeks or even 4 months ago, maybe it would make sense to be pissed off. but not 4 years
 
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