"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Explain why it seems every girl has an abusive bf in her past?

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Seems like almost every girl I talk to, when I ask about her last relationship, she tells me about some abusive ex. He may or may not have been good looking, rich, etc.

But this is what I hear like 95% of the time.

Any explanation?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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OP, what you say is true. I believe it happens for one or more of several reasons, maybe even all at once:

- An ex caught her cheating, dumped her, put his foot down on her major BS, called her out on some major shlt, or otherwise did something to her that “abused” her ego which is mental abuse to her that she then stretches it/calls it/implies that it was physical

- She says it to get attention

- She says it To try and get her new man to want to beat the ex’s azz which gives her her drama fix and gets her cooter wet

- She just lies to see how gullible the new guy is

- The ex had enough of her shlt and really beat her, or, he was a looser who did it for no good reason
 

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Most of them are probably lying and just simply got dumped by some guy who couldn't stand them.
LOL. This is so true. She probably abused the guy.

In general, women want bad boys. If a guy is nice to them they will next them for being a beta chump.
 

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My ex is proof of this. Said most of her exs were abusers, at the end she nearly drove me crazy and is now telling our mutual friends i abused her.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

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It's interesting that they thrive on attention. The MGTOW guys say that eventually they become indifferent to females. They don't hate them. They pretend they don't exist.

Me, on the other hand, am willing to give them attention if that's what they want. Not obsessive stalking attention... Just normal amounts.

I just have to figure a way to make it work.
 
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