"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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A bunch of us go for a movie in the mountains. See this girl for first time from different school. We talk, cuddle, kiss and make-out during the movie. Everything was great; night ended on a good note.

A couple of days later I call her for a date to a drive-in movie and she gladly accepts. The movie was good; we cuddled and talked the whole time without any bad or akward pauses. I take her home, go in for the kiss, and she TURNS HER HEAD! I give her a pissed off look and left.

Keep in mind that I had no contact with her since the night in the mountains when I got on her? I don't know, I'm stumped. Obviously I won't be calling her again, but wtf? Can anybody explain, or is this just some girl who was playin me? This experience shows me just how unpredictable and ruthless some damn girls are. Talk about a kick in the nuts.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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maybe she just thought it was some kind of 'one night stand' when you first made out and wanted to leave it at that or she was just suprised. dont pull out though, give it one more shot with her, everything might change.
 
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ur not giving enough detail here.
she may have done that for a number of reasons.
You may have been too forward without creating space between the two of you. You may have screwed up elsewhere. It may have been her problem altogether.
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Originally posted by gRiM999
ur not giving enough detail here.
she may have done that for a number of reasons.
You may have been too forward without creating space between the two of you. You may have screwed up elsewhere. It may have been her problem altogether.
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That is honestly all the detail I can give without telling you word for word what we talked about; and like I said there was no bad or akward pauses that made anything uncomfortable.

And your right I did come on pretty strong... the first night. But I also got some from her too. The second time I was with her I actually toned it down a bit and was just looking for the goodnight kiss. So I don't think I was too forward with her, and I did give some space as I didn't even talk to her for a couple days after the night in the mountains.
 
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Originally posted by gravstar
maybe she just thought it was some kind of 'one night stand' when you first made out and wanted to leave it at that or she was just suprised. dont pull out though, give it one more shot with her, everything might change.
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I don't really want to get serious with this girl or anything, but I'm gonna take your advice and give her a call tomorrow to see what the hell happened. I'll let you know when I do.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Originally posted by Ride26
I don't really want to get serious with this girl or anything, but I'm gonna take your advice and give her a call tomorrow to see what the hell happened. I'll let you know when I do.
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just go for it son!
 
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Communcation is your friend. Use it.

Incase youre a retard and don't understand; ask her why she turned her head.

Girls are sensative creatures. They can be easily swayed from total happiness to sadness with one sentance. It might have been something you said, something her friend said or something her parents said. Or her parents were probably watching. It can be cured with some positive reinforcement from you to her.


Tell us what it was, im Interested in finding out.
 
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Mystery Solved!

So I called her up and it turns out that she has a boyfriend!

I asked her, "So why did you give me the shaft the other night?"

"I don't know, I was confused." :(

"Confused?"

"Well.....I didn't tell you that I had a boyfriend."

long pause (had to keep myself from laughing)

"Well you're right, you didn't tell me that." while laughing

So I talked to her a little more and made a joke out of the whole situation. I got her in a good mood and I'm actually going on a date this weekend with her. She said that she'll "make it up to me."

I learned out of this little ordeal to not just give up after a little tumble. I hear too frequently on this site "next her....next her ass, damnit!" My advice is to seek closure on everything and move on when you know for sure the time is right.

Thanks for your good advice guys!
 
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