Explain this ******** please

[salsipuedes]

Two days ago i got fed up and dumped my girlfriend over the phone, for months now she has been cancelling dates, acting distant, and clearly not putting our relationship in a high priority. All at the same time she has been saying she wants us to get married soon and have kids in less than two years. So i called ( shes working for 3 months out of town) her and told her i wasnt comfortable anymore, she agreed that she hasnt been putting enough effort into our relationship, and i told her we should just be friends.

No problem so far

So last night, a friend of her calls me and tells me shes upset because i broke up with her, and told her she felt i acted bad to breake up with her over the phone, said i "freaked out" because i did it like that. So i explained to her that i have been putting up with a lot of her bull for many months and combined that with the stress of me opening my restaurant soon i simply got fed up.

So explain to me that, why is she now saying i am an ******* because i broke up with her like that when she is the one that systematically destroyed the relationship over the last 3 months?

 

[Damian]

Don't even bother with trying to think about that girl. She's clearly screwed up to begin with, so just try to stay away. Forget her and go find somebody else

-Damian

 

[flexion_]

You would have been a ****** if you broke up with her in person too...

 

[tmpgstx]

She was trying to end it on her terms but you beat her to the punch. It sounds like she cheated (or getting ready to) on you and then was guilty about it and then came back with the marriage thing. Her actions were/are mixed between guilt and what she wants.

This is exactly what happened with my last girlfriend. Some guy was telling her that i was never going to marry her so she should go for him. It confused her so she came back with the marriage bs while at the same time was cancelling and becoming distant.

In short, she has another guy in the wings anyway, and never expected you to dump her. Good job! You have the power. She'll beg to get back with you but don't let her.

 

[penkitten]

her friend is fishing for you to say something to go back and tell your ex.
you dont have to explain yourself to her friends. you already explained to her, the phone is not in person but better than letter or internet.
they will get over it, i would ignore them.

 

[Bill]

Don't worry about her. You did the best thing you could do for yourself.

-Bill

 

[Lost In Translation]

tmpgstx
She was trying to end it on her terms but you beat her to the punch

bingo !

nothing upsets a woman more than being beaten to the punch with breakups

they wanna be able to tell their girlfriends they dumped you

like that Seinfeld episode

"to the victor go the spoils"

penkitten
her friend is fishing for you to say something to go back and tell your ex.
you dont have to explain yourself to her friends. you already explained to her, the phone is not in person but better than letter or internet.
they will get over it, i would ignore them.

i would follow penkitten's advice

don't buy into their games

it's over

no discussion with friends or relatives will be enterd into about the previous relationship after it ends

it's in every contract i have with a woman


Lost In Translation

**AUSTRALIAN STREET PIMP**

" stop being insecure " i hate that saying. it's a cop out for not having enough balls to confront a woman about what she is doing THAT IS WRONG or potentially damaging to a long term relationship. – Lost In Translation

 

[DonJuanMonk]

Welcome fellow brother. May your next ho be a pleasant one.

 

[Jaun_Don]

Originally posted by Damian
Don't even bother with trying to think about that girl. She's clearly screwed up to begin with, so just try to stay away. Forget her and go find somebody else

-Damian

that was the exact same advice that I was thinking.