"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Cerwin Vega

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I've been dating this girl for a month who I told from date 1 that next year I'm going abroad to study.

At first it was no big deal for her, but once we started regularly having sex and dating she starts telling me that she's afraid that it won't work out between us because of the distance.

I already know that this relationship will last at most to shortly before I move abroad, but I didn't explicitly tell her that, I told her "I don't know what will happen in the future" and "let's see how it goes" but this argument will clearly come back sooner or later.

She's exactly the opposite of my ex - she respects me, understands my needs, gives me plenty of space, doesn't try to make me jealousy and the sex is awesome! Also, she clearly wants this for the long-term.

I'm not yet ready to settle, not to mention a long-distance relationship because there will be tons of horny pvssies oh I mean students who only have time to f*ck between exams.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Johnnymahoe

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Since you're not ready to settle, not going abroad for this girl is not worth it because going abroad will be a great experience (I did it in college too)

Long distance abroad is a terrible idea...unless you're willing to cheat or she is willing to have an open relationship while you're there.

If you want to keep up what you have until then, keep saying "you'll see how it goes" or whatever. If that starts to not work, make it seem like you might be willing to continue in a relationship when you go abroad.
 

old_skoolr

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I'd just end it dude.

No point holding onto something your not going to cherish atm.

You'll hurt her even more, especially if shes that keen on you.
 

IBreatheSpears

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Tell her the truth, but don't break up with her - let her decide what to do.

My last girlfriend was set to move away this July just gone, and we started going out last September. I told her I wouldn't do long distance when she moved and she stayed with me (until I broke up with her for something else at the end of January).
 

LMFAO

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Just tell her that it doesn't change the relationship for you and you are not looking to see anyone else and you hope she feels the same. Depending on how much you like her, that way you can keep it sort of open and see what happens.

In reality chances are you're going to be swimming in pu$$y and she will be wondering what is going on and may call you continuously to see what you are up to, and eventually break up with you when she realises that you're so far apart (and suspects you're f*cking lots of girls).

Keep it open with her, never tell her you're banging anyone else, f*ck the pu$$y, and if she breaks up to you leave it at that.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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