"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Hi,

I've been out with this chick 6 times and gave been texting with her for a few months. I really like her.

She seems to be taking a very slow approach to us, and she's very busy. I don't feel like she's brushing me off, but i WOULD like to spend more time with her.

After 6 dates should I be still be on the initiating most of the contact and asking her out on Formal dates? How often would you contact her? ANY advice would be helpful
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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we are both 33 and no we've just made out. she did just get of an engagement, so i wonder if thats part of it.

i was but have cooled it, so i can focus on her.
 
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i was but have cooled it, so i can focus on her.

Therein lies the problem. It would be ok if things were equal, but it doesn't sound like she is that focused on you. Even if she's not dating anyone else, if she was that into you, then she would make the time to see you more.
 
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I do agree with you. Maybe not text her or ask out again, but then i run the risk of her being bye bye. Which you always have to be prepared to walk.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Just date another girl or two, and things will take care of themselves. There's no reason to go ghost on this girl; just don't give her 100% of your time and effort when she is not doing the same for you.
 
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Yep. I'm a pattern right now just texting her every other day and being cool.
 
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