Experts DJs break down this situation I was in!

[steviecruiser]

I will make this as simple as possible and want your feedback

I met hot European Chick for coffee. I kinod right flirted right, was confident.

I followed up days later her IL was up and we met again for coffee

She was very close to me and didn't want to leave as I had to tell her I had to leave first

Followed up days later, her IL was high. We went to the movies... Kinod and held hands. Then at the end we had a real hot kiss close

I follow up a few days later and she tells me she only wants to be friends.


WTF?????????

 

[steviecruiser]

Yea it was weird, I did leave out some details though.

Basically everytime we have seen each other she usually texted me after saying she had a nice time or something nice. Basically I kissed her in the parking lot of a movie theater, it was good 2 way action. I then ended the kiss first using the mentality of "always leave them wanting more" I ended it smoothly though, not abrupt. I thought the kiss was good and her IL would be up.

So she didnt text me after this time and I didnt either... so 2 days later I texted her and she texted me back. I asked her how her day was and she seemed pretty cordial. Then I texted her with "so when am i seeing you again :"

She didn't respond to this so I made a joke and then she said "i dont know, the rest of my week is booked so far "

Now I found this to be out of the ordinary because she never used to be like that and would always make time to see me no matter what. So I jokingly texted her "it was nice knowing you "

She then was like "i don't get you but whatever"

So I told her the next day I was playing because things get misinterpreted through texts. She said she didnt think it was funny and said she only wants to be friends with me.

Now I know you are going to say I lost it cause of this but her IL seemed lower before I even texted her this garbage because she didnt act as she normally had with me (saying she was booked up, not texting me to say she had a nice time etc..) So I asked her about what happend and she basically said

"I don't know, it just doesn't feel right" but that I was a nice guy blah blah blah

 

[King Turi]

Maybe too much affection, the nice guy comment leans towards that I think.

You weren't constantly telling her how beautiful she is were you?

 

[Snowman23]

Ya know, that's the common perception. Someone posts a FR that didn't turn out well, and the masses conclude "You didn't kino enough", or "you didn't escalate enough".

The bottom line with women is, if she really likes you, there's little you can do wrong. Way too much over-analyzing in this forum.

Case in point, she's not interested.

 

[eaglez1177]

If you posted a field report it would be easy to pick out what went wrong. You probably said something that really caught her off guard or something she just didnt like so she friended you. Move on.

 

[WC2]

You can interpret her text any way you'd like, but in the end it's probably pretty meaningless.

Either

A) This is just a test and she's playing with your emotions to see your reaction

or

B) You came on too hard and were instantly available to her; some women see this as a red flag and BOUNCE.

Either way as I said, it's meaningless. Why? Because both of these reasons require a common response from you :

Spin other plates and put her on the backburner for now.

You'll find that women say a lot of things that they don't mean just to evoke reaction from men; Sort of like a power move.

By improving yourself and talking to other women, you leave this option open for the future and increase your chances with not only her, but other women.

 

[Pathgen]

I think some might think it obvious, but it should be said that it is possible this was not your doing. Maybe she was spinning plates of her own and decided that she liked another guy better (no offense im just sayin)? Or maybe you said something that upset her, but she didn't bring up. I'm just saying that the problem could have been with her for some stupid ho reason.

 

[COD]

well U missed your window to bang this chick. If u wanted a girlfriend, U gotta limit her options. If she has been spinning plates you were only a diversion or time filler. If that was the case.........you should hit it and quit it.

 

[Vader]

but that I was a nice guy blah blah blah

You missed your shot. She was working on the 3 date rule.

 

[ready123]

my guess is she wanted to get fvcked, you didn't fvck her. she comes to the conclusion you're just gonna do your push pull sht over and over instead of actually going anywhere so your value drops

if there's another guy in the picture that did what you didn't and closed the deal, that would explain a lot too

a lot of girls just wanna be taken

for you, spinning other plates is a cop out, not a solution. learn to recognize a window of opportunity, get over whatever hangups about sex you have, learn to handle logistics, and learn to seal the deal before the window closes

 

[steviecruiser]

Its like people are torn between I didn't escalate fast enough or I came acrosss too AFCish. But trust me her IL was pretty high and we kissed good. Something after that turned her off. She used to text me after each time we went out saying she had a good time or at least something nice. This time she didnt. I waited 2 days and she responded back to my text but then went cautious. I guess she couldn't decide if she wanted me and when I called her out it just made her lose IL

I guess I should have just played it cool. I just dont get how these girls flake so fast no matter what you do sometimes