Expert help:- Low Interest Level. I asked for space

[jay07]

1. She is contactin you less because there IS another guy involved. Doesnt mean shes banging him, but someone has caught her interest. If you were the only dude in the picture. Shed constantly be contacting you.

2. Telling her you want space will temporarily make her worried, until the new dude comes into contact. You may have shot yourself in the foot, cause now shell go farther with this dude for a backup.

3. Go date some other chicks on the side and watch how your attitude changes towarxs her. It will have similarities to how she acts towards you.

Proof is in the pudding. Take her less seriously, let her continue contacting you but do not initiate with her.

 

[Starfvcks 64]

Congratulations.

Now LEARN what you did wrong, and learn WHY it was wrong, and vow to never do it again. If someone drugged you, tied you to a wall naked, put your **** (and balls) over the blade of a guillotine and said, "fully spew your insecurity and emotions to the last girl you fvcked, or i'll drop the blade," you'd say: "Drop the blade."

You aren't in a good position, and I know you feel like sh1t, but I promise you, if you keep learning you'll actually see this as a positive experience due to the wisdom you've gained.

Oneitis is never OK and it can also be a real bltch to beat. The BEST option is to walk away and move on, but I know that's much easier said than done.

I've stayed with a girl after shlt like this. She played the same game your girl is. I ended up going back to her, and yea... now i'm SoSuaves coolest poster.

"It's better to look like a **** for few months, than to feel like a fool for the rest of your life."
That isn't a real quote, because I can't remember the real quote.
Basically, do the hard, uncomfortable thing now, because it will only be worse in the future.

 

[misoup]

1. She is contactin you less because there IS another guy involved. Doesnt mean shes banging him, but someone has caught her interest. If you were the only dude in the picture. Shed constantly be contacting you.

2. Telling her you want space will temporarily make her worried, until the new dude comes into contact. You may have shot yourself in the foot, cause now shell go farther with this dude for a backup.

There may be another guy involved and there may not be. But I don't want to look too much into it. It will mess me up and bring up the insecurities in me.

In fact, I will be looking at dating few more chicks.

Regarding point 2) telling her I want space will make her run to the new guy?? I'm not sure if that sounds right...?

 

[Starfvcks 64]

"I'm not sure if that sounds right...?"

but you don't know shlt, so that's ok.
She is TELLING you things you want to hear. She wants to keep you as an OPTION, but you haven't accepted that you don't want to be an OPTION.
You don't want her being with you just because she can't find anyone else (yet).

If things are working out with the other guy, who may or may not be in the picture, why wouldn't she fvck him AND text you that she misses you?
It's easy to do both.
Why wouldn't she be out exploring her options and seeing if she can find someone better? If she can, goodbye to you. If she can't... well, you still lose.

And if she can't decide and ends up fvcking 20 guys "just to be sure"?

You OK with that?

 

[LP700-4]

A small background, she does occasionally go overseas for work (1month per work trip every 3months)

The first few trips, everything is going fine, she calls me all the time saying how much she misses me love me etc. Until recently a few months ago, she seems a bit more distant and I did talk to her about the decreased contact and the amount of contact that I would like to have (I guess it should come off as needy).
Things changed for the better a while and afterwhich, she became distant again. That's when I tried withdrawing more attention, letting her initiate contact more, but her initiation is not too much, she always just wants to talk for 5mins and claimed that she's busy again. 5mins per day is not okay for me (Needy mindset i know).

This current work trip is the last trip as her overseas project is ending




Latest Updates

She texted me that she really loves me a lot and hope that my mind will calm down. She said she is not sure if she can go through this 2weeks but she will still try. She mentioned she is very sad and panicking..

2 hours later, she texted me again asking me whether can we still keep in contact? She will "do her best to contact me more, so that I will not suffer anymore"

Tricky situation and yet I don't know how to reply! I don't want to come across as an *******, I do care for her feelings and really wish to keep in contact.

And yet, I feel that these 2weeks will be an opportunity to let me "sort out" my oneitis state while letting her miss me more.

Any suggestions? I haven't replied yet.

<A PUA friend suggested me to stop this 2weeks thing and get this oneitis off through reading more about inner game and emotional strength, while dating new chicks>

Dude, you are placing way too much of your happiness and emotional stability on just ONE chick. You need to find other things that make you happy besides one woman. You will only end up being depressed and sad all the time. My best advice is to drop this woman altogether and start talking to multiple women and try not to develop oneitis.

 

[Lotus Effect]

Hey there little buddie!

I'll help you out translating her message.

But I wish to have 2 weeks apart (No contact) and sort out my mind, I can't stand the sight of you I am not seeing anyone else currently, I'm seeing a dude which I believe it is better than you I really love you too much and I am quite stressed up. I do not wish to smother you like before and I. I still like you, and I wish to keep you as an orbiter I need space to sort out and be in contact with you 2 weeks later. I need to try this new c*ck and see if it is better than yours However, if you think that you would like to stop this relationship, we can still be friends" However if everything fails, I want to keep you as a cushion, so I'll have your sorry ass to keep me entertained while I can't find someone better

Well, about the rest of it. Seriously, there ain't much more to it.

If you chase her, you will be always remembered as a tool. Dump her ass never to look back. She might cry, might call you names, whatever you like, but you will be seen as a man, something that few dudes can pull off, and when time passes, you can and will always have her as a f*ck buddie!


And about your latest updates. It's plain and simple.

SHE ASKED FOR IT. NOW SHE IS GETTING IT. DO. NOT. REPLY. ANYTHING!

You are not coming out rude, you are coming out man!

OBS: A piece of advice. 2 weeks WILL NOT help you "sort out" this oneitis. I'm 7 months now and I assure you nothing is sorted out. But nothing is sorted out in my case because I chased her like a beta chump.

So do a favor to yourself, to your PUA friend, to everyone in here trying to help you, and to me that wasted precious time of my life to answer you and

DO NOT REPLY. GO F*CKING GHOST!

Also, read THIS POST!!!

EDIT:

There may be another guy involved and there may not be...

TO help you solving this riddle, let me reinforce the truth...

THERE IS ANOTHER GUY INVOLVED!!!

She won't let go of a branch, until she is holding another. Your girl is no different than any other girl out there!

Read that post I recomended you!

 

[VladPatton]

You definitely spilled too many emotions for her due to panic. You felt something was off, and your gut instinct is right. With all those overseas trips for work who knows what she did. One never does. Or perhaps she's messing with a local guy. Whatever the hell it is, your radar went off, so go ghost for 3 weeks, not 2, then see what happens, how she is.

If you still get that bad vibe that she's not all there like before, break it off. Hit the Nuke button and beat her to the punch, with very little explanation.

 

[misoup]

Hey there little buddie!

I'll help you out translating her message.



Well, about the rest of it. Seriously, there ain't much more to it.

If you chase her, you will be always remembered as a tool. Dump her ass never to look back. She might cry, might call you names, whatever you like, but you will be seen as a man, something that few dudes can pull off, and when time passes, you can and will always have her as a f*ck buddie!


And about your latest updates. It's plain and simple.

SHE ASKED FOR IT. NOW SHE IS GETTING IT. DO. NOT. REPLY. ANYTHING!

You are not coming out rude, you are coming out man!

OBS: A piece of advice. 2 weeks WILL NOT help you "sort out" this oneitis. I'm 7 months now and I assure you nothing is sorted out. But nothing is sorted out in my case because I chased her like a beta chump.

So do a favor to yourself, to your PUA friend, to everyone in here trying to help you, and to me that wasted precious time of my life to answer you and

DO NOT REPLY. GO F*CKING GHOST!

Also, read THIS POST!!!

EDIT:
TO help you solving this riddle, let me reinforce the truth...

THERE IS ANOTHER GUY INVOLVED!!!

She won't let go of a branch, until she is holding another. Your girl is no different than any other girl out there!

Read that post I recomended you!

Dude, I'm the one whom asked for space. Not her. You misunderstood

 

[Lotus Effect]

Dude, I'm the one whom asked for space. Not her. You misunderstood

Sorry about that!

But reading that post still applies!

 

[charlezz]

A better move would have been to simply become even more distant with her or stop initiating contact altogether. If the situation still didn't improve then just break up with her or start spinning new plates. The ONLY way to fix floundering interest is to become less interested and become more interesting. Stop initiating contact, stay fit, get stylish, work on your game (read the DJ Bible), basically just keep improving yourself. If none of this works then forget about her and game new women.

I have been thinking a lot about this post.

It simply sums up the solutions for all the "gf with low interest" issues.
Am I right to say that?