Experienced Players Only: The fine line between reaching out too much and being too distant ..

[RangerMIke]

I'm really just who I am, if I feel like reaching out... I will. Some women might think it is too much, and they get spooked: some think it's not enough and read that as my disinterest and drift off.

Truth is there is no set protocol that works with ALL women... every chick is different. Truth is I do not think I will ever get really good at texting... I just didn't grow up with it. Oh I'm sure if I applied myself I could figure it all out... I just don't care enough to put in the effort. The good news for me... I suppose... is I do think @cola has a point... If you are not doing this correctly with chicks in their 20s and early 30s you will fail. You younger guys can have these flaky @ss creatures... I just don't have the patience... I'll stick with women in their late 30s and 40s, thank you very much...

 

[Barrister]

I tend to mirror what she does. However, I do agree that up front -- if you are dealing with a hot woman then you will have to pursue a little bit. I don't have an issue with texting a woman here or there for rapport building and think it actually enhances the actual dates themselves.

On the other hand, I will never send out a pointless "good morning/night", "how are you", "how was work" type text. That is just empty filler texting that makes you come off as needy and not having much going on in your own life. If I text her with something other than setting up a date, I try to keep it light/funny to get a rise out of her and give her a bit of a hard time.

 

[Bingo-Player]

Most girls are going to want some rapport building through social media / texting

It's a necessary evil unfortunately and it usually requires real creativity on our part to ensure we are not deviating into mundane nice guy chat that's going to dry her up faster than a puddle in the Sahara

The good news is once you get into your flow it gets easier because your confidence and attitude translates without effort through your messages and this is what girls want

They don't want to talk about how nice the weather is or what they are doing on the weekend it's boring

They want guys to make them feel feminine , submissive, naughty , sexy , funny , spontaneous

Then when she is horny / drunk booty calling whatever she wants to have sex with these guys first

How do you get them to feel like this when your chatting to them through messages

well you project it for them ( hold the door open ) you show her you are masculine , cheeky , sexual and spontaenous

Remember women like to follow they are naturally submissive so give them something to follow not something to think about

Common mistake i used to make was getting sucked into this game of "who cares less"

I was in ibiza a few years ago and me and my freind were battling it out for this HB 8 we met at the pool in our hotel..... i went with the couldn't care less angle thinking i was the "prize" and she could come and get me yea she was interested and attracted to e but ultimately she has two guys battling for her why does she need to chase me supply <> demand .....my friend went with 3 days of sheer persistence .

guess who got the pu$$y in the end .

Aloof game Is stupid and only ever works IF she is already invested in you ....

every guy ultimately wants his plate on the floor on all fours ready for him to fvck her

How the fvck is that going to happen when your wasting time playing stupid games pretending you care less than her

 

[Barrister]

Does being an extremely experienced world of Warcraft player count?

Chicks love WoW. Great conversation starter. But you won’t be getting laid ha.