Marlimus
Senior Don Juan
I've been on the Don Juan path for about a year now, but I've been cold approaching long before that. This is what I have to say about the whole issue about which is better: cold approach or indirect approach.
COLD APPROACH:
Pro: You can dictate the first impression. You say what you want to say, with maybe a canned opener in mind.
Con: She has her defenses up. She knows, despite all your ****y and funny, that you are into her. The game is on.
Indirect Approach:
The indirect approach means that basically you allow your alpha male characteristics to show without a pickup. For example, you hang with a group of girls, who introduce you to some other girl, who you decide you are interested in. She become part of your social circle because she is a friend of a friend. To display your alpha male characteristics without actually coming on to her, other than a little flirtation here and there.
I have come to the conclusion that cold approaching is great, its a sport. But with indirect game, you will find that your targets like you more and that their interest holds for longer periods of time. A girl who knows you, who sees you Don Juan side without you approaching her, will like you forever. Cold approach OF COURSE, but keep expanding your social network. Women who are impressed by you will talk about you, and you will be able to tell if a girl likes you by how her friends treat you.
I once hit on a girl, then lost interest and didn't email her once over the summer. I bump into her roommate (who I never met before) and she says: "You're Marlimus! (hugs me) and says she's heard so much about me. I've had other experiences similar to this. Girls who are attracted to you through social networking will stay attracted to you, and talk about you to other girls upping your social value, whereas with cold approaching, its different.
COLD APPROACH:
Pro: You can dictate the first impression. You say what you want to say, with maybe a canned opener in mind.
Con: She has her defenses up. She knows, despite all your ****y and funny, that you are into her. The game is on.
Indirect Approach:
The indirect approach means that basically you allow your alpha male characteristics to show without a pickup. For example, you hang with a group of girls, who introduce you to some other girl, who you decide you are interested in. She become part of your social circle because she is a friend of a friend. To display your alpha male characteristics without actually coming on to her, other than a little flirtation here and there.
I have come to the conclusion that cold approaching is great, its a sport. But with indirect game, you will find that your targets like you more and that their interest holds for longer periods of time. A girl who knows you, who sees you Don Juan side without you approaching her, will like you forever. Cold approach OF COURSE, but keep expanding your social network. Women who are impressed by you will talk about you, and you will be able to tell if a girl likes you by how her friends treat you.
I once hit on a girl, then lost interest and didn't email her once over the summer. I bump into her roommate (who I never met before) and she says: "You're Marlimus! (hugs me) and says she's heard so much about me. I've had other experiences similar to this. Girls who are attracted to you through social networking will stay attracted to you, and talk about you to other girls upping your social value, whereas with cold approaching, its different.