was talkin' to some gal for a couple hours and we really clicked. in the end i got her number and she gladly gave it. took her a while to go too. she said i was very entertaining and interesting and that's why she was hangin around for so long. she's expecting a call in about 20 mins. i was thinking should i play hard to get and "forget to call"? i know she'll be wondering all day why i didn't. or should i just call her since the interest level is pretty high anyway?
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
expecting my call, but should i?
- Thread starter chance
- Start date
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Sasha
Don Juan
don't forget
just call her in like an hour and don't appologise for calling late! don't even mention it! Just talk normal. Like hay, how u doin etc.. and if she brings it up, say you had somethin to do
just call her in like an hour and don't appologise for calling late! don't even mention it! Just talk normal. Like hay, how u doin etc.. and if she brings it up, say you had somethin to do
i feel we need to talk a little bit more through out the week. then we can try set up something. maybe a couple more calls after this during the week. i already have another girl on the side and she's actually picking me up tomorrow. i don't wanna speed things up with the new gal.
MidnightResistance
Senior Don Juan
NO.
1 call. Set up date and thats it.
You can talk to her more on the date
1 call. Set up date and thats it.
You can talk to her more on the date
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
umm. i just had the worst 30 minute phone conversation. she was awful. it was boring. she talks alot... and it was about her job half the time. she's a teacher for disabled kids and she has this junky stoner voice (she does drink though cause she mentioned she likes to get trashed on the weekend) eww, not my type at all. not to chase anyway. i'd only fuk someone like her if we were in the same place and it was just right. i don't feel like chasing this girl at all. i could be wrong but she might be nice if we went out sometime but i dunno. usually after phone calls with a girl i make my mind up wether or not i liked the conversation we had.
lol @ her not letting me go. i said i was gonna go and she wouldnt let me. i kept saying, yeah i gotta go and so do you, gotta get up early. she kept saying no no no and talking about more crap. she's the type who gets into stories and doesnt shut up.
i didn't even get the chance to ask her many questions about HER not her job.
i said don't make me hang up on you. she said no again and she said dont go. i said its 2am i gotta go. she goes okay whatever (she wasnt upset though) so i said hey dont gimme that whatever attitude now (smirky kinda reply)... then she started another story. after that i finally got her off and said we'll talk when we talk. goodnight
wtf was all that about? lol. and she's about a 7 out of 10 in my books. brunette, nicely dressed, nice hair, blue eyes. she's 23 years old. anyway... i dont know if i want to answer her next time she calls. i will probably if im out with friends. i like to get calls when im out. but not at home. at least i wont be bored. she talks alot. anyway.. i got another gal on the side so its all good.
lol @ her not letting me go. i said i was gonna go and she wouldnt let me. i kept saying, yeah i gotta go and so do you, gotta get up early. she kept saying no no no and talking about more crap. she's the type who gets into stories and doesnt shut up.
i didn't even get the chance to ask her many questions about HER not her job.
i said don't make me hang up on you. she said no again and she said dont go. i said its 2am i gotta go. she goes okay whatever (she wasnt upset though) so i said hey dont gimme that whatever attitude now (smirky kinda reply)... then she started another story. after that i finally got her off and said we'll talk when we talk. goodnight
wtf was all that about? lol. and she's about a 7 out of 10 in my books. brunette, nicely dressed, nice hair, blue eyes. she's 23 years old. anyway... i dont know if i want to answer her next time she calls. i will probably if im out with friends. i like to get calls when im out. but not at home. at least i wont be bored. she talks alot. anyway.. i got another gal on the side so its all good.
frivolousz21
Master Don Juan
isnt that the ****tyst dissapointment
Sasha
Don Juan
I'd love to meat a girl like that! I love chicks that can talk without stopping. Then I can just sit back and wait for the goodies!
I love chicks that can talk without stopping. Then I can just sit back and wait for the goodies! seroph
Don Juan
all that thinkin' for nothin, eh?
lol.
lol.
We just told you to call and set up a date - thats it. The phone isn't for having "getting to know you" conversations... you do that in person.
Now you two will start calling for no reason and having nothing to say... bore the relationship to death... etc...
You call women to set up dates - thats it! The relationship part happens in person.
Now you two will start calling for no reason and having nothing to say... bore the relationship to death... etc...
You call women to set up dates - thats it! The relationship part happens in person.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Black_Italian
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Why ask for advice if you you going to do you own thing anyway. They say call and setup a date and you call and talk for 30 min idiot.
i never said i wanted to set up a date. she wasnt letting me go when i wanted to. she was in the middle of stories about the bali bombing, the fuk you want me to do... hang up on her? i tried plenty times but she said no and kept goin on with the stories. didn't really wanna set up a date with her at this stage. im not calling her back anyway. i bet my money she'll wanna call me. also, i've had plenty of dates happening from talking on the phone for even hours. ended up in relationships with them girls. infact it even worked better that way. we talked for at least maybe a month before we met and when we met there was still plenty to talk about.
Sasha
Don Juan
but why do you just wanna talk to girl? don't you wanna shag em?
okay well i got home just then and she msged me and well i said enough phone talk, lets catch up tomorrow night. she said she'll call me tonight and we will organise something. i think she's after what i am. a fuk, and that's great. lol. just broke up with gf couple days ago. nothing big or serious but i think i need to fool around a bit before i get into another one. pass the time ya know.