"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Expect your gf/fiance/wife to get hit on all the time......

Francisco d'Anconia

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lookyoung said:
...Woman are weaker than us so they don't feel as safe on the street and it is not in there nature to be the aggressor. Woman are used to getting approached and are spoiled by us....
Whether they are weaker, less confident or using the anti-slut defence, this is the reason why guys need to give women a sign that they are are approachable. Why would you expect a woman to approach without an invitation? There are guys who won't approach unless they get an undeniable sign of invitation from a so called "weaker" woman, why should women be any different?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Whether they are weaker, less confident or using the anti-slut defence, this is the reason why guys need to give women a sign that they are are approachable. Why would you expect a woman to approach without an invitation? There are guys who won't approach unless they get an undeniable sign of invitation from a so called "weaker" woman, why should women be any different?
What kind of sign would that be? Give an example. How can I give a woman an invitation to approach me at the supermarket or waiting in line at starbucks? I have a deep voice and am very masculine, muscular and strong. Would acting feminine like mystery or style help? If thats the case I rather not get laid the rest of my life.
 

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What kind of sign would that be? Give an example. How can I give a woman an invitation to approach me at the supermarket or waiting in line at starbucks? I have a deep voice and am very masculine, muscular and strong. Would acting feminine like mystery or style help? If thats the case I rather not get laid the rest of my life.
Typically I'm just smiling. Not a toothy Cheshire Cat type smile, just one showing that I'm having a good time doing whatever I'm doing, I think I'm usually humming too. Even if I'm doing something as simple as picking the best cantaloupe in the produce isle. I'm showing that I'm having a good time doing it. Instead of being so focused on getting what I need to get and moving on, I take my time.

Women seem to notice this and approach with some of the same lines that PUAs tell us guys to say to women. I can't remember how many times a woman has come up to me and ask how I go about choosing good melon. Don't laugh, it's a great ice breaker even if they don't realize it until after I turn to them with one in each hand chuckle "It's the firmness." It's corny but it easily lightens the mood even more; kinda like turbo charging the rapport phase.

Don't let being fit and having a deep voice stop you either, it's a bad excuse. You'd be surprised at how long a woman will talk to a guy just to listen to his voice. The thing is that he has to have something to say instead of walking around scowling and looking menacing.
 
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