"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Expect Nothing, Gain Everything

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Been on and off this site for about 6 years and I thought it was time I'd stop by again and share some of my experience.


Expect Nothing

When I used to go out I ran around the bars and picked up as many girls as I could. I approached, approached and approached some more. Sometimes it went good and I was really happy, othertimes it went bad and I wasnt as happy.

Nowadays I dont expect a thing when I go out. Getting girls have been zoned out of my life completly. I go out to talk, I go out to have a beer with my friends and generally have fun and meet new people. If I meet someone, then I dont rush it to get laid. "****ing afc" I can hear you think now when you read this.

Thing is I've learned that by doing this I can...


Gain Everything

You see when I meet a girl and hang out with her I got two choices. I can lay my moves on her and have a chance to get laid or I can actually get to know her a bit and become friends. Chance is she probably has 10 female friends or more and several who are probably very good looking and hopefully have a great personality. It may take a while to get to know her but I'm a very patient man who believe in long term goals.

It's very easy to meet women this way. You can be yourself completly which I sincerly hope is not some afc wuss but someone who has something going for him. The whole thing with friend zone is bull****. You'll end up there if you are ugly, are a loser or got a bad personality. But you can easily turn from friend to lover if you are a MAN, not kidding. Eventually you'll notice some of the girls you know will start to show interest in you. From there it's up to you, pretend you dont notice/ljbf her or check if she's something for you. You are in control.

So much easier than to use some system or trying to be a player. Might not get as many partners but the ones you got you can sleep with alot more, wheter it's **** buddy or a relationship. Might be worth trying out a bit if you're tired of reading all the "XXX supertips on how to get tha tang"threads
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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when you expect nothing and get everything....thats destiny
 

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Yep, I totally agree.

Guys, don't be afraid to LJBF girls who you aren't overly attracted to. Then use them to get other girls and for social proof

(I know, I know, this soinds so womanly and manipulative but, what-the-hey. All's fair in love and war...)
 

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The firendzone is not BS.....it's just that the friendzone that you are talking about has the girl thinking about you as a potential BF or hookup...big difference. The friendzone that most guys land in while pursuing a woman is the FZ of failure sexually. Yes, it's very possible to just be friends with tons of sexual tension there for a long amount of time.
 

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Reborn said:
Been on and off this site for about 6 years and I thought it was time I'd stop by again and share some of my experience.


Expect Nothing

When I used to go out I ran around the bars and picked up as many girls as I could. I approached, approached and approached some more. Sometimes it went good and I was really happy, othertimes it went bad and I wasnt as happy.

Nowadays I dont expect a thing when I go out. Getting girls have been zoned out of my life completly. I go out to talk, I go out to have a beer with my friends and generally have fun and meet new people. If I meet someone, then I dont rush it to get laid. "****ing afc" I can hear you think now when you read this.

Thing is I've learned that by doing this I can...


Gain Everything

You see when I meet a girl and hang out with her I got two choices. I can lay my moves on her and have a chance to get laid or I can actually get to know her a bit and become friends. Chance is she probably has 10 female friends or more and several who are probably very good looking and hopefully have a great personality. It may take a while to get to know her but I'm a very patient man who believe in long term goals.

It's very easy to meet women this way. You can be yourself completly which I sincerly hope is not some afc wuss but someone who has something going for him. The whole thing with friend zone is bull****. You'll end up there if you are ugly, are a loser or got a bad personality. But you can easily turn from friend to lover if you are a MAN, not kidding. Eventually you'll notice some of the girls you know will start to show interest in you. From there it's up to you, pretend you dont notice/ljbf her or check if she's something for you. You are in control.

So much easier than to use some system or trying to be a player. Might not get as many partners but the ones you got you can sleep with alot more, wheter it's **** buddy or a relationship. Might be worth trying out a bit if you're tired of reading all the "XXX supertips on how to get tha tang"threads
the problem with this is that alot of guys on this site end up gaining feelings for these women that ljbf.

most of what a lot of people have been doing prior to coming here was getting nothing and alot of times because they were EXPECTING nothing. simply because thats what they have always gotten.

you have to do something different from what you have normally done to expect different results.

your concept is fair, but can lead alot of men down a lonely street.

i encourage to go out with friends and have a good time. dont place women your sole objective. but place some activity in there

confidence isnt approaching a women KNOWING you will succeed. confidence is approaching even when you KNOW youll either fail or succeed.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Yes I see that it might not work for everyone, especially not if you're at the beginning of breaking out of the AFC patterns. This is more meant for the guys who have been out in the field a bit, who have improved their looks, personality and their social skills but dont know where to go. Building social nets like this will not only improve the sexual life but also life in general.

Like everything in life, you need to be ready for something to make use of it. It works wonders for me and most of all I dont have to go throught the whole ordeal of chasing women. Breaking through ***** shields in bars have been fun but I really prefer the more subtle game you can play by doing this. If you know she's interested, one look at her, one touch or one action can have the effect you want. Or you can just ignore her abit and make her jealous by dont giving her any attention. It's a thrilling game much more fun than picking up random girls. :)
 
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