"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Expect Nothing, Gain Everything

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Been on and off this site for about 6 years and I thought it was time I'd stop by again and share some of my experience.


Expect Nothing

When I used to go out I ran around the bars and picked up as many girls as I could. I approached, approached and approached some more. Sometimes it went good and I was really happy, othertimes it went bad and I wasnt as happy.

Nowadays I dont expect a thing when I go out. Getting girls have been zoned out of my life completly. I go out to talk, I go out to have a beer with my friends and generally have fun and meet new people. If I meet someone, then I dont rush it to get laid. "****ing afc" I can hear you think now when you read this.

Thing is I've learned that by doing this I can...


Gain Everything

You see when I meet a girl and hang out with her I got two choices. I can lay my moves on her and have a chance to get laid or I can actually get to know her a bit and become friends. Chance is she probably has 10 female friends or more and several who are probably very good looking and hopefully have a great personality. It may take a while to get to know her but I'm a very patient man who believe in long term goals.

It's very easy to meet women this way. You can be yourself completly which I sincerly hope is not some afc wuss but someone who has something going for him. The whole thing with friend zone is bull****. You'll end up there if you are ugly, are a loser or got a bad personality. But you can easily turn from friend to lover if you are a MAN, not kidding. Eventually you'll notice some of the girls you know will start to show interest in you. From there it's up to you, pretend you dont notice/ljbf her or check if she's something for you. You are in control.

So much easier than to use some system or trying to be a player. Might not get as many partners but the ones you got you can sleep with alot more, wheter it's **** buddy or a relationship. Might be worth trying out a bit if you're tired of reading all the "XXX supertips on how to get tha tang"threads
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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when you expect nothing and get everything....thats destiny
 

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Yep, I totally agree.

Guys, don't be afraid to LJBF girls who you aren't overly attracted to. Then use them to get other girls and for social proof

(I know, I know, this soinds so womanly and manipulative but, what-the-hey. All's fair in love and war...)
 

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The firendzone is not BS.....it's just that the friendzone that you are talking about has the girl thinking about you as a potential BF or hookup...big difference. The friendzone that most guys land in while pursuing a woman is the FZ of failure sexually. Yes, it's very possible to just be friends with tons of sexual tension there for a long amount of time.
 

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Reborn said:
Been on and off this site for about 6 years and I thought it was time I'd stop by again and share some of my experience.


Expect Nothing

When I used to go out I ran around the bars and picked up as many girls as I could. I approached, approached and approached some more. Sometimes it went good and I was really happy, othertimes it went bad and I wasnt as happy.

Nowadays I dont expect a thing when I go out. Getting girls have been zoned out of my life completly. I go out to talk, I go out to have a beer with my friends and generally have fun and meet new people. If I meet someone, then I dont rush it to get laid. "****ing afc" I can hear you think now when you read this.

Thing is I've learned that by doing this I can...


Gain Everything

You see when I meet a girl and hang out with her I got two choices. I can lay my moves on her and have a chance to get laid or I can actually get to know her a bit and become friends. Chance is she probably has 10 female friends or more and several who are probably very good looking and hopefully have a great personality. It may take a while to get to know her but I'm a very patient man who believe in long term goals.

It's very easy to meet women this way. You can be yourself completly which I sincerly hope is not some afc wuss but someone who has something going for him. The whole thing with friend zone is bull****. You'll end up there if you are ugly, are a loser or got a bad personality. But you can easily turn from friend to lover if you are a MAN, not kidding. Eventually you'll notice some of the girls you know will start to show interest in you. From there it's up to you, pretend you dont notice/ljbf her or check if she's something for you. You are in control.

So much easier than to use some system or trying to be a player. Might not get as many partners but the ones you got you can sleep with alot more, wheter it's **** buddy or a relationship. Might be worth trying out a bit if you're tired of reading all the "XXX supertips on how to get tha tang"threads
the problem with this is that alot of guys on this site end up gaining feelings for these women that ljbf.

most of what a lot of people have been doing prior to coming here was getting nothing and alot of times because they were EXPECTING nothing. simply because thats what they have always gotten.

you have to do something different from what you have normally done to expect different results.

your concept is fair, but can lead alot of men down a lonely street.

i encourage to go out with friends and have a good time. dont place women your sole objective. but place some activity in there

confidence isnt approaching a women KNOWING you will succeed. confidence is approaching even when you KNOW youll either fail or succeed.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Yes I see that it might not work for everyone, especially not if you're at the beginning of breaking out of the AFC patterns. This is more meant for the guys who have been out in the field a bit, who have improved their looks, personality and their social skills but dont know where to go. Building social nets like this will not only improve the sexual life but also life in general.

Like everything in life, you need to be ready for something to make use of it. It works wonders for me and most of all I dont have to go throught the whole ordeal of chasing women. Breaking through ***** shields in bars have been fun but I really prefer the more subtle game you can play by doing this. If you know she's interested, one look at her, one touch or one action can have the effect you want. Or you can just ignore her abit and make her jealous by dont giving her any attention. It's a thrilling game much more fun than picking up random girls. :)
 
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