"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Fender

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Tired of people complaining about sosuave? DO something about it godammit!

The reason why theres not much good stuff around here is that DJ's are limited in their thinking. The basic DJ way is

1) Be a man
2) See no. 1

w00t! We're soooOOoOoOo smart! Although one cannot argue with "Be a Man," there is more to seduction than this! We might as well change the name of the site from sosuave to Pook!

"Delete all posts not made by Pook!!!"

Pft...there is so much more than this. A few months ago, I thought I had learnt everything I needed to know about seduction (having re-read the bible about 50 million times). Then, I read "The Game" by Neil Strauss (good book btw), and realised I knew NOTHING. Then, I stumbled on Juggler's material and realised once again that I knew NOTHING. Finally, I discovered Swingcats e-book and for the third time in the space of 1 week, I realised that I knew NOTHING about seduction.

WHY OH WHY?!?! Having spent nearly 2 years on this site, why was I so STUPID (seduction wise)??? It's because the DJ way is limited.

"But the DJ way is the BEST way! We should be PROUD of our methods!"

Agreed, the path of the DJ is pretty delicious on the whole. But why limit ourselves? I believe in taking the best from each method and creating our own ****tail of seduction methods.

So brothers, here is my proposition. We will all go out, and learn about another method other than the DJ way. Be it mystery method, gunswitch, juggler or any other. Learn it, test it, experiment with it. Then, come back here, and tell us what worked and what didn't.

Who knows, maybe this site WILL get better because of this.

with optimism and faith,

Fender.


p.s I'm currently learning about Juggler's method. It's probably closest to the DJ method in that it doesn't rely on routines and canned openers. However, his method places more emphasis on conversation and wide-rapport as opposed to sexuality. I'll report back once I field test some of this stuff! :D
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Boner da Stoner

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Oi! The DJ way is only unsuccessful for those who only look, and don't touch.

I can imagine playing a board game with the steps you've described.

Start off the board, roll a one, move to be a man, roll again, land on "go back one space", and repeat.
 

Ice Cold

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Excavate!

1. To make a hole in; hollow out: excavate an ore-rich hillside.
2. To form by hollowing out.
3. To remove by digging or scooping out.
4. To expose or uncover by or as if by digging: excavate an archaeological site.


So you have to excavate to find good dating material? :crackup: :cheer:
 

The Juan and only

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Originally posted by Ice Cold
Excavate!

1. To make a hole in; hollow out: excavate an ore-rich hillside.
2. To form by hollowing out.
3. To remove by digging or scooping out.
4. To expose or uncover by or as if by digging: excavate an archaeological site.


So you have to excavate to find good dating material? :crackup: :cheer:

yes....as in "expose or uncover" information.
 

blinkwatt

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I too have made the mistake of counting on this site too much when I was younger instead of taking the knowledge and putting it to work. ITS UP TO US TO EXPERIMENT AND FINDOUT WHAT WORKS FOR US INDIVUALLY BECAUSE WE ALL ARE DIFFERENT. Granted Iam not where I want to be,M.I.L.B. Hunting(Mother I'd Love To Bribe) for a living. Get the act on tape,$3k a mom. One mom a month and I will be well off with a real job.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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