Exe's That Came Back After A Long Time?

[Dash Riprock]

Just out of curiosity, I would meet her. Why not? Unless, as a few have posted, you were head over heels about her and considered her a oneitits before your DJ journey. But if not, do it. I'd be curious how she's aged, as women age quicker in the face and bod than men, and I would flat out ask her why she reached out. I'd make the date super convenient for me, a place really close to my house and cheap. Like a Starbucks or Buffalo Wild Wings. Don't buy anything for her, as a matter of fact when the bill came, I'd push it towards her and say, "Oh, one thing I do remember from 4 years ago is that it's your turn to buy,"and then laugh. Keep it short and DON'T commit to another date or even seeing her again. If she looks hot and things go well, add her to your rotation--that's it.

Unfortunately, people don't change. If she was an entitled, petty b*itch back then she probably still is, so gf or LTR is out. But, if you can control your emotions with her, bang her a few times. Who cares?

Let us know what happens.

Good luck.

 

[RickTheToad]

She's an ex for a reason. Unless she apologizes for wasting your time or whatever she did to you, pass. You obviously have feelings for her, and seeing or dating her would just bring them back. It happened to me a couple times this year already (posted here about them too). I stayed NC on one, and ghosted the other. Unless they are crawling back to you and admit they fvcked up, no second chances. Now, if it was just sex a few times that is one thing, you had a six month relationship with her, so there are bound to be feelings. She's just hit a slump. Never take the trash back in after you've taken it to the curb.

 

[soulforge]

Yeah that can be dangerous letting a girl back in your life that you were emotionally invested in but finally got over. Reason being is there’s still a part of you deep down that will come to the top when you’re with her and before you know it you’re getting dumped all over again.

I agree with this.. I had feelings for this chick back in the day.

I only dated her for around 6-7 months, girl was hard work and I was kinda blue pill back then..

Was kinda relieved when it ended.. She actually ghosted me lol.

I've got two plates in rotation that i'm pounding on the weekends.. I doubt I can even fit her on.

Girls don't reach out to an ex this many years down the line... Unless she has hit the wall.. Or some dude has truly fuked her over.

Meh i've got better things to do, than go revisit this ghost from the past.

 

[Robert28]

I agree with this.. I had feelings for this chick back in the day.

I only dated her for around 6-7 months, girl was hard work and I was kinda blue pill back then..

Was kinda relieved when it ended.. She actually ghosted me lol.

I've got two plates in rotation that i'm pounding on the weekends.. I doubt I can even fit her on.

Girls don't reach out to an ex this many years down the line... Unless she has hit the wall.. Or some dude has truly fuked her over.

Meh i've got better things to do, than go revisit this ghost from the past.

A lot of women hit the wall and refuse to come to terms with it. They think they can still play the same games they played back when y’all dated. TRUST ME ON THIS. They think just because they had you wrapped around their finger once that it won’t take much effort to do again. Women don’t think most guys actively improve themselves after bad experiences because let’s be honest, most don’t. We are the select few that are constantly working to improve ourselves and this girl still thinks you’re going to be the same guy she dated for 6 months 4 years ago.

 

[soulforge]

A lot of women hit the wall and refuse to come to terms with it. They think they can still play the same games they played back when y’all dated. TRUST ME ON THIS. They think just because they had you wrapped around their finger once that it won’t take much effort to do again. Women don’t think most guys actively improve themselves after bad experiences because let’s be honest, most don’t. We are the select few that are constantly working to improve ourselves and this girl still thinks you’re going to be the same guy she dated for 6 months 4 years ago.

This time around I would destroy her Ass Bruv.. Have her take part in 3sums, all kinds of crazy chit.

4 years ago, I still had the Disney Version of relationships in my head.

 

[Robert28]

This time around I would destroy her Ass Bruv.. Have her take part in 3sums, all kinds of crazy chit.

4 years ago, I still had the Disney Version of relationships in my head.

When she ghosted you did you foresee it coming? Did you chase after her after she ghosted you?

 

[allancc3]

Just out of curiosity, I would meet her. Why not? Unless, as a few have posted, you were head over heels about her and considered her a oneitits before your DJ journey. But if not, do it. I'd be curious how she's aged, as women age quicker in the face and bod than men, and I would flat out ask her why she reached out. I'd make the date super convenient for me, a place really close to my house and cheap. Like a Starbucks or Buffalo Wild Wings. Don't buy anything for her, as a matter of fact when the bill came, I'd push it towards her and say, "Oh, one thing I do remember from 4 years ago is that it's your turn to buy,"and then laugh. Keep it short and DON'T commit to another date or even seeing her again. If she looks hot and things go well, add her to your rotation--that's it.

Unfortunately, people don't change. If she was an entitled, petty b*itch back then she probably still is, so gf or LTR is out. But, if you can control your emotions with her, bang her a few times. Who cares?

Let us know what happens.

Good luck.

It's always strange to me that guys are constantly looking to lie, front, perpetrate or otherwise come up with some quick scam or scheme for some short term action. It's the mentality of the low value guy. And more often than not, it doesn't work anyway, or in the rare event it does, he gets called out and winds up looking foolish.

It's like the girl who gets all glammed up with an all day make up and shopping fest just for two hours out on the town. You see shortie the next morning with no heels and no makeup and she can't even look you in the eye.

If she can't handle honesty she's probaby a nutjob anyway and best avoided.

 

[RickTheToad]

It's always strange to me that guys are constantly looking to lie, front, perpetrate or otherwise come up with some quick scam or scheme for some short term action. It's the mentality of the low value guy. And more often than not, it doesn't work anyway, or in the rare event it does, he gets called out and winds up looking foolish.

It's like the girl who gets all glammed up with an all day make up and shopping fest just for two hours out on the town. You see shortie the next morning with no heels and no makeup and she can't even look you in the eye.

If she can't handle honesty she's probaby a nutjob anyway and best avoided.

I hate to say it, but this dude is right. Every time in my past I've taken an ex back, it lasted for a minute and the same issues arose. Leave the trash outside. Trust when I tell you, you have more power and strength in yourself and to them when you just stay NC and move on with your life. They are an ex for a reason.

Rollo once said if you entertain taking her back w/o her apologizing and recognizing how she done you wrong, you're just going to get hurt again. It's hard to keep a lady you were in a relationship as just a plate. We are human and we will develop feelings with them again. NC 4 Life unless she yields and acknowledges her sins. However, I will stress, they will prob. happen again.

 

[Dash Riprock]

It's always strange to me that guys are constantly looking to lie, front, perpetrate or otherwise come up with some quick scam or scheme for some short term action. It's the mentality of the low value guy. And more often than not, it doesn't work anyway, or in the rare event it does, he gets called out and winds up looking foolish.

It's like the girl who gets all glammed up with an all day make up and shopping fest just for two hours out on the town. You see shortie the next morning with no heels and no makeup and she can't even look you in the eye.

If she can't handle honesty she's probaby a nutjob anyway and best avoided.

Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but I honestly have no idea what the F you're talking about.

Ciao.

 

[Glassguy]

Yeah that can be dangerous letting a girl back in your life that you were emotionally invested in but finally got over. Reason being is there’s still a part of you deep down that will come to the top when you’re with her and before you know it you’re getting dumped all over again.

If there were feelings involved from the guy's end it's just too easily to become vulnerable again.

No thanks. Plenty of clean slates out there for me to pursue.

 

[soulforge]

When she ghosted you did you foresee it coming? Did you chase after her after she ghosted you?

My memory is a little vague, but I think we had a little disagreement over some BS..

Then she stopped replying to my text messages!

Woman are cold remorseless creatures.. In one moment they will be confessing there undying love.. In the next moment, they can without hesitation just ghost your ass and go off sucking off other mens DIKS.

Chameleons!

 

[Robert28]

My memory is a little vague, but I think we had a little disagreement over some BS..

Then she stopped replying to my text messages!

Woman are cold remorseless creatures.. In one moment they will be confessing there undying love.. In the next moment, they can without hesitation just ghost your ass and go off sucking off other mens DIKS.

Chameleons!

Oh I know what you mean. In a week I had a girl go from “I see is being together for a long time” to her mentally checking out within a week. Luckily I saw what she was doing and didn’t chase and we basically ghosted each other at the same time. I don’t trust women though, they can tell me the sky is blue and I won’t believe it. They also lie by omission. All of them do.

 

[JayAce]

My memory is a little vague, but I think we had a little disagreement over some BS..

Then she stopped replying to my text messages!

Woman are cold remorseless creatures.. In one moment they will be confessing there undying love.. In the next moment, they can without hesitation just ghost your ass and go off sucking off other mens DIKS.

Chameleons!

Yes they are. I’ve experienced it a couple times in my blue pill days. They can be ice cold. One ex of mine confessed that she loved me and then literally a couple months later ghosted me and stopped responding to my msgs. Like I said I was blue pilled when this happen. It stung very, very, very badly at the time. I thought this women was “it”.

that blue pill mindset. i guess if there’s one thing i can thank her for is leading me to red pill. i haven’t invested as much in a woman as i did her since that happened a few yrs ago

 

[wifehunter]

"Exe's That Came Back After A Long Time?"

 

[soulforge]

I hate to say it, but this dude is right. Every time in my past I've taken an ex back, it lasted for a minute and the same issues arose. Leave the trash outside. Trust when I tell you, you have more power and strength in yourself and to them when you just stay NC and move on with your life. They are an ex for a reason.

Rollo once said if you entertain taking her back w/o her apologizing and recognizing how she done you wrong, you're just going to get hurt again. It's hard to keep a lady you were in a relationship as just a plate. We are human and we will develop feelings with them again. NC 4 Life unless she yields and acknowledges her sins. However, I will stress, they will prob. happen again.

Even if they

Yes they are. I’ve experienced it a couple times in my blue pill days. They can be ice cold. One ex of mine confessed that she loved me and then literally a couple months later ghosted me and stopped responding to my msgs. Like I said I was blue pilled when this happen. It stung very, very, very badly at the time. I thought this women was “it”.

that blue pill mindset. i guess if there’s one thing i can thank her for is leading me to red pill. i haven’t invested as much in a woman as i did her since that happened a few yrs ago

Welcome to the reality of woman.. Glad your Disney days are behind you now.

 

[soulforge]

Yes they are. I’ve experienced it a couple times in my blue pill days. They can be ice cold. One ex of mine confessed that she loved me and then literally a couple months later ghosted me and stopped responding to my msgs. Like I said I was blue pilled when this happen. It stung very, very, very badly at the time. I thought this women was “it”.

that blue pill mindset. i guess if there’s one thing i can thank her for is leading me to red pill. i haven’t invested as much in a woman as i did her since that happened a few yrs ago

Mate.. My current ex portrayed the image of a very sweet and innocent person.. She was very naive (so I thought)

She was the wifey type material.. Very caring and always follows the mans lead.

In the end, she showed a side of herself that was a complete opposite.. Very cold.. A simple text saying it is over.. Then puff Gone!

Even the text was a complete lack of emotion.. Like I said they are Chameleons.

Never do too much for them.. Always stay a little emotionally detached and be prepared for them to flip the script on you at ANY point.

In this age we live in.. Do not expect long lasting loyalty from a woman.. She will have her eye on multiple options!

 

[Chev.Chelios]

She's an ex for a reason. Unless she apologizes for wasting your time or whatever she did to you, pass. You obviously have feelings for her, and seeing or dating her would just bring them back. It happened to me a couple times this year already (posted here about them too). I stayed NC on one, and ghosted the other. Unless they are crawling back to you and admit they fvcked up, no second chances. Now, if it was just sex a few times that is one thing, you had a six month relationship with her, so there are bound to be feelings. She's just hit a slump. Never take the trash back in after you've taken it to the curb.

gawd.. typical watered down advice

 

[RickTheToad]

gawd.. typical watered down advice

Says the dude who knocked up a nut. Please. Go home little man.

 

[Murk]

What about an ex that left because you treated her badly, that’s what happened in my case. We broke up a few times and she basically grew tired of loving me more than I loved her.

When she ghosted me I took it badly and thought I loved her, I was wrong, I couldn’t give a fvck about her now but still think about her from time to time and would love to bang again.

 

[JayAce]

Mate.. My current ex portrayed the image of a very sweet and innocent person.. She was very naive (so I thought)

She was the wifey type material.. Very caring and always follows the mans lead.

In the end, she showed a side of herself that was a complete opposite.. Very cold.. A simple text saying it is over.. Then puff Gone!

Even the text was a complete lack of emotion.. Like I said they are Chameleons.

Never do too much for them.. Always stay a little emotionally detached and be prepared for them to flip the script on you at ANY point.

In this age we live in.. Do not expect long lasting loyalty from a woman.. She will have her eye on multiple options!

yeah it took me a long while getting over the ex I talked about. i think it was the complete 180 she pulled more than anything. I fell right into it too. Hook, line and sinker.

and you’re right about not women not being loyal... especially in this day and age.

I haven’t invested much into any chick since then (3 years now). little bits here and there but nothing compared to this woman 3 yrs ago. and it does suck because every blue moon I do get a little urge to want to meet a very quality woman and have a quality relationship but that urge quickly evaporates when I think of experiences like the one 3 yrs ago and experiences I read such as yours on here.