Ex'es and Sex'es..need some advice

[Prestige]

Well guys, I really need some rookie advice.

About a year ago, I broke up with the girl I was with for 2 years. We still talk once in awhile, but it usually turns into arguing. I really despise her, yet I think about her almost everyday and I think I still maybe 'love' her. After we broke up she kinda got dirty, sleeping around and whatnot, maybe thats what pisses me off the most. I'm the one who worked that forever to get it dialed in and it's like she has lost all self-respect.

Now I find it almost wierd being with other girls. I was with her for so long I pretty much lost all my 'game', which wasn't horrible--I picked her up using alot of the tactics i've read on here, although I had never read it before and it was all natural--. Now I'm pretty much back to 'square one'. I've had a few GF's/FB's since breaking up with her but nothing too serious. Which is cool because I dont want anything serious, im only 19 and leaving for college soon.

Another problem i've been having since then [breaking up with her], is that I get crazy nervous when it comes to any kind of sexual situation--anywhere from making out to sex--. I know that sounds messed up, but its very true. When I was with her, I was so comfortable and I ran the show. Now, it's like I know the girls im getting with have had experience and I feel like I need to meet a certain standard. Then I get all jammed up and I think about everything too much. It's like I forget everything I've ever learned, tricks and tips, you know. Every time i've had sex with anybody new [since her], I bust in like 10 seconds. By no means am I bragging, but I've been known to hold my own in the sac...both before her and with her. So what the hell is wrong with me now?

Any ideas/advice/help would be awesome...

P.S- Feel free to add your personal tales of similar situations, maybe there's something to be learned if we can all look back on things.

Peace

 

[Wiesman44]

the 10 second bust is pyschological / nervousness. Occasionally when I **** someone new i'm not comfortable with, i'll get the ol' quick shooter. Not always though. Seems to me you're thinking about it way too much. Soon as that happens, your fu#ked.

 

[Prestige]

hmm.. yeah that is pretty much what happens.

bump

 

[Macgyver]

Sex is always mental, if you think about making love to someone you do like, your mind will shift from the physical aspect to a more sensual aspect. If you think about wanting to bust a nut, it will happen a lot sooner than you think. In my case, I noticed that I shoot my guns a lot quicker if I'm with someone that I'm don't really love on a deep level, it's like "I just want to get it over" - nowadays I try to avoid getting involved with girls I don't feel anything not because of this but because having sex with a girl you do not truly have deep feelings for is like jacking off alone.

 

[Prestige]

i think that may be where the problem lies... none of the other girls havent meant a sinlge thing to me...

oh well guess i should just man up and start hittin' everything that comes my way haha

 

[NHY]

Theres was no need to tidy up the post for because of what I said but at least you got some decent answers now.

Anyways, like I said in the original topic, your acting like an AFC, your have a touch of oneitis and thats what could be messing up your game, you should go read the bible section over and maybe do a bootcamp here if the need arises but I'll leave that to you.