Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Exerpt-The great diet delusion

Quagmire911

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Some of you may have read WBA and other's writings about how carbs, not fats, are the real problem in keeping the fat off. And not only that but how refined, processed foods that contain an abundance of carbs are damaging to our health. Other's of you may have seen Karma's great health results when he followed a high fat, ultra low carb diet. Some of you may have wondered why. Well here is an article that delves a little deeper (not a lot), that I found interesting and informative. Here it is:


"There is considerable evidence that the obesity epidemic is caused by a hormonal phenomenon, specifically by the consumption of refined carbohydrates, starches and sugars, all of which prompt (sooner or later) excessive insulin secretion. Insulin is the primary regulator of fat storage. When insulin levels are elevated, fat accumulates in our body tissue; when they fall, fat is released and we use it for fuel. By stimulating insulin secretion, carbohydrates make us fat; by driving us to accumulate fat, this increases hunger and decreases the energy we expend in metabolism and physical activity. In short, obesity is caused not by overeating or sedentary behavior, but by the hormonal malfunctioning triggered by the consumption of particular types of carbohydrate-containing foods. Obesity researchers, nutritionists and health authorities have refused to contemplate this scenario, partly because it would imply that diet-book doctors advocating carbohydrate-restricted diets- Robert Atkins et al - were right all along. Instead, these alleged experts and guardians of our health have wasted a good part of a century on research bases on a high-school misconception, watching their compatriots grow ever fatter while blaming everyone but themselves. In the process, they have created a field of clinical medicine that functions more like a religion than a science. It is time to put the science back in charge."

Exert from New Scientist article "The great diet delusion" Issue No.2639. By Gary Taubes.


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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Taubes has literally written the book on this subject ("Good Calories, Bad Calories") -- it's an exhausting read, and gets jargon-y in some places, but if you're patient and finish even a few chapters, you'll be furious with food scientists, self-appointed "obesity experts" and all the rest of 'em. Our entire culture has absorbed this fat-is-bad mentality, and it's killing us, when it's supposed to be saving us.
 

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Totally Throttle.

On the surface you'd think yeah eating fattening foods must be what makes us overweight and sure they can but the bigger offender when it comes down to it is sugar and the foods that turn into sugar after digestion which then get stored as fat.

Fascinating stuff guys.
 

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Depends on metabolism, activity, etc. Bottom line all 3 macros are important and you need right amounts of all 3. Calorie surplus leads to weight gain, diet, training, timings, etc. determine what that weight gain will be. There's no point labelling carbs as the enemy because eating lots of healthy fats can still lead to fat gains, even protein can. Looks like carbs are just the new blamer/scapegoat of the 21st century.

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Mad Manic said:
Depends on metabolism, activity, etc. Bottom line all 3 macros are important and you need right amounts of all 3. Calorie surplus leads to weight gain, diet, training, timings, etc. determine what that weight gain will be. There's no point labelling carbs as the enemy because eating lots of healthy fats can still lead to fat gains, even protein can. Looks like carbs are just the new blamer/scapegoat of the 21st century.

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It's not ALL carbs, just the modern processed ****ty carbs. Stuff like fruits/veggies are all good. Our bodies can't process packaged crap very effectively...
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Quagmire911 said:
It's not ALL carbs, just the modern processed ****ty carbs. Stuff like fruits/veggies are all good. Our bodies can't process packaged crap very effectively...
Carbs in general get a bad rep now, even the better ones. Makes little sense considering the grand scheme of a whole diet.

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Mad Manic said:
Carbs in general get a bad rep now, even the better ones. Makes little sense considering the grand scheme of a whole diet.

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Anyone that thinks fruits and veggies are bad obviously doesn't have a clue...
 

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there is no "right amount" of all three macros. there are people in the world that survive (barely) on 10% of calories from protein, and there are people in the world that have thrived on seal & whale as their only food much of the year. that's the omnivore's dilemma--we can eat almost anything, but it doesn't make any balance necessarily good for us.

if you can measure your food intake with a calorimeter, then more power to you. the rest of us live in the real world and have to find a sustainable balance of diet & exercise that doesn't leave us either constantly hungry or constantly sore (at which point we go back to slothdom & eating crummy processed foods).
 

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You know I actually don't know the problem...I'd much rather eat a high fat diet then a high carb diet.

Medium steak in a peppercorn sauce with some peas, coupled with coffee and cream and you are set...

Ps-Cooked in OO of course...
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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eat a steak and pound the missus? wait...i'm not married. must be channeling WB Alex.....
 
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