That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
This sounds like the same mumbo jumbo my friend who runs marathons spews at me. "You have to run for 30 minutes before you're even burning any fat." The science sounds all nice and official but in the end it misleads people somehow along the way.EFFORT said:Sprinting is not going to do it, sprinting works on your anaerobic energy systems (ATP-PC for the first seconds, then your switching to Glycogenesis, then anaerobic glycolysis all to generate you ATP without oxygen. You need to be aerobic (with oxygen) to burn fat, thats why we do low intensity for a long time, you become more aerobic and burn fat which yields more ATP than a glucose or glycogen molecule.
Maybe it burns less fat DURING the exercise (no idea)... but what things sound like is that you're more concerned with your body keep on burning up fat after you're done for a long time.HIIT
Quick definition: high intensity interval training. This is a hybrid version of both extremes of fat burning sessions and CV work. This is where short bursts of incredibly intense exercise are followed not by rest, but less intense exercise.
Examples: hill sprints and any CV work that is cycled in its intensity
More info: this method of training is incredibly effective and literally turns your body into a fat burning furnace. You get the respiratory benefits of very high intensity CV exercise and the fat burning benefits of lower intensity exercise. This shifts your metabolism into overdrive and, if you can handle it, is almost twice as effective as any other method. This effect is magnified further by adding an incline to your work (as running up a 10 degree gradient burns twice as many kcals/hour than on the flat). it is also worth noting that as you need muscle to sprint @ MHR, your body will be using anything but muscle to fuel itself, this is not the case with lower intensitty exersize.
http://www.fitsense.co.uk/fit_article.php?id=18
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.