Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Exercise and Diet for the Mind

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Exercise and Diet for the mind
Eating and exercising are staples of physical readiness and mobility. Eat the calorie…the right kind of calories and it will make you function better in more ways than I have time to list on this page.

But the concept of diet and exercise can also be applied to mental health as well. Think of reading and absorbing information much in the same way as you would eating. What kinds of foods are you eating? Are you eating too little, too much? Where does your food come from? Does the food you eat make you tired and lethargic or energetic and awake? Now interchange the words food with information and eating with absorbing.

Now think about critical thinking, problem solving, and creativity as exercise. Are you too bloated from your food to exercise? Do you need more energy from food to exercise? Are you too sedentary or not working out hard enough? Have you consciously sought to figure out what your information uptake/critical thinking ratio should be through experience?

Just as diet and exercise must be balanced, so must learning and creative thinking. Take in too much information and you won’t do anything with it much like the fat guy who won’t exercise. Thinking about everything with taking in new ideas and concepts and you will wear yourself out and not have energy to make good decisions.

Hope this helps, I got this concept from the 4 hour work week when he talks about a low information diet.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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