Excuses

[War Against Betaism]

I was at the gym today doing my daily workouts. I was heading for the tricep machine and then just before me some old lady arrives at the machine. I stopped and went to another machine, it seemed she noticed and asked me if I wanted to use it, I declined and told her that she can use it and I'll use it after her. Then it hit me, if I was my old self I would have kept on walking and acted like I wasn't heading for that machine. If she asked me if I wanted to use it I probably would have said "Oh no I wasn't going to use it anyway!" This had me thinking for a while...

When I was an AFC and a girl caught me looking at her, I would look away as if I was looking at something else or the sky.

If I wanted something and was beaten to it, I would make up an excuse and say "Oh it's all right, I didn't want it as much as I thought I would anyways..." even though I did.

Then I realized the main difference between the me now and the me back then, I was concerned about looking stupid. For some reason I would protect my image in little situations like this and not take responsibility and instead place it all on excuses made up on the spot. And you know what? These excuses made me look worse! When I'm hanging out with people younger than me and they do this, it just makes me laugh that 1) I used to do this, and 2) There is no need to make such simple excuses to try and make yourself look a little better. No need to lie to yourself, no need to use excuses.

 

[slaog]

I know what you mean because I was like that too.


It's like some people can't admit it when they are wrong because they are concerned about being wrong when in reality it doesn't matter it you yourself don't make it matter.

 

[War Against Betaism]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xV-F1Bdy_Xs

Here is the perfect video that portrays this perfectly.

 

[Interceptor]

Next time that happens, just say "Thank you, Id love to work in."
And promptly set up your weight and pump away, once youre doen with your set, replacer the weight the previous person was using , and wait your turn to go again,.

dont be afraid to assert what you want especially when someone is actually gracious, and kind, and concerned enough with you to offer you an opportunity to share with them.

Do so with confidence. Get what you want even in the face of distracton or obstacles.

 

[SinJester]

There's a lot strength in honesty. You don't feel you have to lie about your actions, or deny you desires. It shows you have balls.