excuses

[Crazy Asian]

i've gotten so many excuses from girls.
i can't tell the real ones from the fake ones.
basically, if she says no cause she has something else to do, and then doesn't counter-offer, i just leave her alone.

how can i tell the difference between real and fake excuses?

 

[Igetit!]

Let me take a guess at the kind of excuses you get. Whenever you try to hang out with her or set up a date she says,"Well,I can't because I am going to be with my friend that day",or "I have to work",or "I have to spend time with my family"or (and this is my favorite) "I'm busy". Are these the kind of excuses you get?

 

[true romance]

your job is to offer a date..her job is to accept..if she is real busy then it's a timing issue.

If she doesn't counter the offer it means that she has IL...

Remember the one who interest will call back....

 

[Crazy Asian]

Let me take a guess at the kind of excuses you get. Whenever you try to hang out with her or set up a date she says,"Well,I can't because I am going to be with my friend that day",or "I have to work",or "I have to spend time with my family"or (and this is my favorite) "I'm busy". Are these the kind of excuses you get?

yeah they are.
she said " I can't this weekend, it's my dad's birthday this weekend and he wants us to spend "family time", i know, fun."
but i mean his birthday is ONE day, and the weekend is three days, so lol.

i'll give her one more chance, but
i'm about to forget about this girl completely.

oh hey, and what am i doing wrong if girls are makin up excuses like these?
paint my skin white?

 

[Crazy Asian]

It doesn't matter whether her excuses are real or fake; the bottom line is your hand will be keeping you company that night.

Don't worry whether they are real or fake; focus on WHY you are getting any excuses at all.

And yes, if her IL is high, she'll counter offer 95% of the time.

yeah i understand.
so how can i get them more interested.

+ i'm guessing this isn't a question that can be answered in a sentence or two.
i need to go back to step one and fix myself.

 

[Igetit!]

Well,unfortunately,DonS is right. What you need to focus on is WHY you are getting these excuses,because there is a reason. But to be honest, the answer is pretty simple. She doesn't want to spend time with you. It really is just that simple. But if she doesn't want to hang out with you,that means that somewhere during the approach while you were talking to her,you made a mistake. The best thing to do would be to examine the approach to see where (if anywhere) you made an error. Trust me, this is something you want to do. The last thing you want is to spend the next 3 years running into this same problem over and over again with girl after girl,only to find out that it was something easily correctable.

 

[Vypros]

You could just SAY, "Hey, is that just an excuse or not?" lol

Seriously, the best you can do is come up with another random day. If she gives you TWO excuses in one converstation it's time to back out.

 

[Crazy Asian]

aight i'm gonna go through the bible and rethink about some stuff.

but does anyone have ideas on where us guys can go wrong?
i know it's her simply not wanting to spend time with me.
but give me example of what i should do.
simply telling me to be more attractive or outgoing is not gonna help.

 

[Jitterbug]

What did you say to them before you got the excuses?

 

[Crazy Asian]

hey girl, we need to hang out sometime b4 school starts!
this weekend?