"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I was talking to this really hot stripper last night. At one point, I remember thinking that it would be cool if I could find an excuse to touch her. Our arms touched several times during the conservation, but that's it.

Edit: I'll answer my own question. I should have asked her if she wanted a massage. One problem... I'm terrible at giving massages. In fact, there are 3 things that I'm terrible at that girls often equate to good sex...

Giving massages, kissing, and dancing.

But I definitely know how to fvck.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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You shouldn't have an excuse for kino escalation, specially with strippers
 

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So you just touch someone sitting next to you for no reason? Where do you touch them?
When on a date, after you've done everything you just start escalating. At a strip club, what I've done is hug them or grab their leg and look at them. They know what you're doing so they'll play the part if they want to.
 

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It doesn't have to be a full on grope...

If you are standing chatting to a girl a simple little light tap on the elbow......will in fact ground her. Note other women when
they are with other women. The little touch at the elbow is common....the ground each other to make them feel at ease.

It's subtle. Start subtle.

Or while there's mutual laughter a little tap on the arm. She'll probably do this to you. These little taps are telling the other person, hey I think
you've alright, I feel comfortable with you.

Seated, if you are about the change the topic, like "oh let me tell you / oh by way" a slight little tap on the knee/thigh........these are like natural
little taps to the rhythm of the conversation.

For me the subtle little taps are not really....escalation....(but can be) they are more openness and friendliness in the conversation and like i said...it's telling the person you think they are alright too.......then you let them reciprocate
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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It doesn't have to be a full on grope...

If you are standing chatting to a girl a simple little light tap on the elbow......will in fact ground her. Note other women when
they are with other women. The little touch at the elbow is common....the ground each other to make them feel at ease.

It's subtle. Start subtle.

Or while there's mutual laughter a little tap on the arm. She'll probably do this to you. These little taps are telling the other person, hey I think
you've alright, I feel comfortable with you.

Seated, if you are about the change the topic, like "oh let me tell you / oh by way" a slight little tap on the knee/thigh........these are like natural
little taps to the rhythm of the conversation.

For me the subtle little taps are not really....escalation....(but can be) they are more openness and friendliness in the conversation and like i said...it's telling the person you think they are alright too.......then you let them reciprocate
And what comes next after the little arm touches?

Cause we did that.

She reached out and touched my arm after I told her that I flip houses, actually. Lol. She said she's always wanted to get into that.
 

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So you just touch someone sitting next to you for no reason? Where do you touch them?
There's 2 types of touching. Subtle and direct. Subtle is just brief touches typically on the arm when talking. Direct is when your touching is clearly showing sexual interest, like stroking the thighs. You don't really need excuses, a confident man is unapologetic about his attraction towards a woman. Start subtle and escalate gradually by touching more frequently, for longer duration and moving to more intimate zones.
 
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There's 2 types of touching. Subtle and direct. Subtle is just brief touches typically on the arm when talking. Direct is when your touching is clearly showing sexual interest, like stroking the thighs. You don't really need excuses, a confident man is unapologetic about his attraction towards a woman. Start subtle and escalate gradually by touching more frequently, for longer duration and moving to more intimate zones.
Well obviously I have no problem touching girls in intimate places that I've just met if they want me to. Done it hundreds of times.

But I guess the problem is that this behavior is inappropriate in most places and if the girl doesn't want you to.

She literally has to tell you that she wants you to. Otherwise, despite how manly and unapologetic you are, you could face jail time.
 

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Well obviously I have no problem touching girls in intimate places that I've just met if they want me to. Done it hundreds of times.

But I guess the problem is that this behavior is inappropriate in most places and if the girl doesn't want you to.

She literally has to tell you that she wants you to. Otherwise, despite how manly and unapologetic you are, you could face jail time.
Did you read my post? I said to start touching briefly in non intimate places then gradually escalate. Not just grab her in intimate spots right away without asking, that is indeed inappropriate.
 
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