excuses for avoiding taking her dinner?

[pete101]

You guys got any good excuses I can use to avoid taking HBs to dinner when they bring it up for a third date etc?

I've been burnt twice now, so no more dinners before sex.

I just don't know how to weasel out of dinner, if I suggest we cook dinner together she accuses me of inviting myself over.

How do I answer: 'why don't you want to go to dinner?' If I say 'ok if you're buying!' With some girls it turns them off you as they expect the man to pay esp when the bill comes.

 

[5string]

Not hungry? I dunno.

 

[Albatross953]

I use the lets cook dinner all the time..if they're attracted and you're casual enough I have great luck with it. Instigate..isolate..escalate.

 

[skinnyguy]

I use the lets cook dinner all the time..if they're attracted and you're casual enough I have great luck with it. Instigate..isolate..escalate.

I agree with this. I would invite her back to your place. If she says no, just next her.

 

[Harry Wilmington]

The real question is, why are you letting HER determine what you guys are doing for dates in the first place? You're the GUY, remember? You're supposed to take the lead and already have ideas for things you two can do together so you're not relying on her to come up with stuff for those first few dates.

For me, date 1 is usually coffee shop/bookstore. So the "sit down and talk" date is already taken out of the way, and I spent less than 10 bucks. Then everything else is an activity date - bowling, hiking, sometimes a movie.

The other question is, why are you opposed to doing dinner? No one said you have to go anywhere expensive - I've taken girls to Chili's, various inexpensive Mexican restaurants... sometimes when you're out, you just get hungry and she happens to be with you. So, what's the big deal? It's not about the dinner, it's about what you're taking her out to dinner for - you're not doing it because you want sex first, but these girls aren't sexing you anyway, which means dinner isn't the real issue - it's the pressure they feel from YOU to have sex with them. Once you are able to take them out in a way where they don't feel pressured to have sex with you... they'll start having sex with you.

 

[Zarky]

Another problem solved if you avoid dating chicks who don't put out on the first date

 

[Cremasta]

How do I answer: 'why don't you want to go to dinner?'

"Actually, now that I think about it, I could really go for a pizza!"

 

[PlayHer Man]

You should already be f*cking her by the third date.

If you haven't f*ck her by this point.. then you should make her come to your place to cook and watch a movie for the third date. Don't let women drag you around date, after date. Sh!t or get off the pot. If she declines coming over then she doesn't want your d!ck very badly. Move on.

As far as "excuses" go.. you don't need any. She is not an authority figure.. you don't have to explain yourself to her.

Either she wants to follow your lead or she doesn't.

Also.. spine plates.

 

[nismo-4]

Your suggestion didn't work because she is not sexually attracted to you! She always wants to go out, but not at your place or hers? Big red flag dude. Stop dancing to her tune. If she won't dance to yours, drop her ass. But this girl is viewing you as a beta friend anyway.

Case closed.