"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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excerpts from The Art of Seduction

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I've been reading the book and I want to write down some of the more important messages that have been profound to me and share them with you.

Now on page 57, where he describes the psychological traits of the Natural, he explains what The undefensive lover is.

The undefensive lover. As people get older, they protect themselves against painful experiences by closing themselves off. The price for this is that they frow rigid, physically and mentally. But childen are by nature unprotected and open to experience, and this receptiveness is extremely attractive. In the presence of children we become less rigid, infected with their openness. That is why we want to be around them.
Undefensive lovers have somehow circumented the self-protective process, retaining the playful, receptive spirit of the child. They often manifest this spirit physically: they are graceful, and seem to age less rapidly than mmost other people. Of all the Natural's character qualities, this one is the most useful. Defensiveness is deadly in seduction; act defensive and you'll bring out defensiveness in other people. The undefensive lover, on the other hand, lowers the inhibitions of his or her target, a critical part of seduction. It is important to learn not to react defensively: bend instead of resist, be open to influence from others, and they will more easily fall under your spell.
It's important to me because at work and at the club I deal with a lot of women and a lot of ****-tests and sometimes I'm overly sensitive towards them. Sometimes it's better to simply be nice instead of being defensive. It's always better to be the at the giving end of a transaction instead of at the receiving end.

My point is that being agreeable could bring you very far. You don't always have to flaunt your individuality by expressing your opinions. So that was a bit of a breakthrough for me. The whole book is full of them though.
 
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Its about open-mindedness rather than being agreeable. Openness to experiences and extroversion per se. Children are hardly agreeable folk.
 

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My take on this is in my experience when you are playful with them, tease them, and take them out on fun action dates, and make them feel like a kid again you are gold.

If you project an aura of negativity, and have a social bubble around you, you aren't going to get very far. Chicks already have enough stress and bs in their lives as it is and very unlikely do they want to take on any more from you.

So it is best to be positive and project happiness, it will radiate and they will be receptive towards it.

On the other side of the coin watch for the traits described above in the women you date. Women who are scarred and carry emotional baggage are no bueno lol.
 

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I see some truth to this for sure. This past weekend I went on a date. Great girl, very attractive, but quite defensive and when we kissed, she was hesitant. I assumed she wasn't into me, but she confessed she actually liked me a lot.

However, her being so guarded and hesitant killed it for me. I felt no spark, I had no fun and I decided not to see her again.

Other dates, however, have been so playful, flirty and enthusiastic, and by the end of it I feel buzzed and just can't wait to see them again.
 

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Jariel said:
I see some truth to this for sure. This past weekend I went on a date. Great girl, very attractive, but quite defensive and when we kissed, she was hesitant. I assumed she wasn't into me, but she confessed she actually liked me a lot.

However, her being so guarded and hesitant killed it for me. I felt no spark, I had no fun and I decided not to see her again.

Other dates, however, have been so playful, flirty and enthusiastic, and by the end of it I feel buzzed and just can't wait to see them again.
Had me one like that recently too, total turn off.

When with a fun bubbly chick, the receptiveness to kino, the positive energy, and overall instant spark almost make things effortless. Nothing wrong with having a bit of a guard up, but the ones that make it apparent just aren't worth the effort.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I just got done reading about all the different types of seducers and victims. Now I can get busy on the heavy stuff. Phase one, Seperation - Stirring Interest and Desire, consists of 8 little objectives.

1 Choose the right victim
2. Create a false sense of security - approach indirectly
3. Send Mixed signals
4. Appear to be an object of desire
5. Create a need - stir anxiety and discontent.
6. Master the art of insinuation
7. Enter their spirit (by this he means mirroring their values and indulging them in their wants and moods).
8. Create temptation.

What's described in this book is how to make a girl fall in love with you. It's just mindboggling. I'm going to continue reading now.
 
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