exboyfriend?

[eminence]

ok so what the ****, i dont know how to react to this girl....

she hangs out with her exboyfriend, which she was dating for almost 2 years, like once a week. We've been dating for about 2 weeks. She claims they have no feelings for eachother and she would never date him again. She also told me that she tried going back out with him and he didn't want to, but that was when they were fighting, and now they are 'friends' again. About 10 minutes ago I called her up and they are hanging out at her house alone and she invited me to come over with them, I've never associated with this guy before either.

I don't see how they can just be friends after dating for 2 years, saying they love eachother, etc.

Anyways i'm about to go over there, I just don't know what to think about this girl but I don't want to get dumped for this guy...so i'd rather next her then be nexted. I haven't been this stressed in awhile, am I just being too overdramatic?

 

[jmm854]

I have both good and bad news for you.

The bad news:

She was involved with him for 2 years. She loves him. She will do anything for him when it comes down to it and cares for him in a way you couldn't possibly have a comprehension for unless you yourself have ever been involved with another human being for that length of time. These are simple facts that cannot be changed no matter how good or bad they treat each other at any particular time. When you feel like you can honestly say you love someone, you always will, it really doesn't go away.

I know. It sucks. However, you're not totally f*cked.

She's not with him anymore, and for a reason. Their relationship failed. And for whatever reason, you've got an opportunity to be the guy. Usually what women look for in a relationship after a LTR is what they were lacking the most in the previous relationship. Figure out what that is shouldn't be too hard.

F*ck her if you can. But recognize it and don't press the envelope if you can't. That'll help your case bigtime because the more her emotions get thrown into the air the more she'll want to cling to her comfort zone, which of course is right where she's at. Girls don't like change when they're scared and unsure of what to do.

Other than that I would just go about your business. She's with you remember.

 

[musclyjerk]

Tell her she can have him and you hope that he lets her back.

Get rid of this idiot,

The Muscly Jerk

 

[Lust]

Pft screw that, if she is dumb enough to put her self in a situation where her prize (you) is at stake, let her do it.

Don't every attach excess meaning to anyone, unless you really love them.

You know what will make you feel better?

Sarging.

But if you really want to work things out with this girl, i suggest you get into some NLP stuff. Since the relationship lasted two years, and her emotions and memories are deeply rooted inside of her, NLP gets into her, at that level.

A few NLP patterns to forget about her feelings towards him and enhance the ones she has of you, and a C&F attitude will have her begging for you every night. Try it, i suggest something by Richard Bandler, hes good.

Or Speed Seduction by Ross Jeffries.