"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Ex-wife's Myspace Page Still Has Our Wedding Pictures

KingofHearts

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so its been nearly 2 and a half years since i left my crazy ex-wife. She had many symptoms of the textbook bpd. Its been a long hard recovery from that relationship. I have a good grip on the why and how I let it happen, but its impossible to look at women the same way.

Anyway, my ex-wife never updated her myspace page. It still has a picture from our wedding day. I occasionally checked her page when I first left. She logged in about 2 weeks after I left. And never logged in again. The entire page is public, many pictures of our wedding. I've checked on her page a couple of times over the last two years and the pictures are still there. Its been 2+ years and she never went back to delete her profile or at least change the pictures. Anybody that wants to look her up just has to type in her name and there i am!

I don't know what to think. Obviously I shouldn't care since she's not in my life anymore. But what can i say, its interesting to me that im still on her page. And I wonder how a guy dating her would respond after seeing those pics.

I know she's not dead. I saw her sometime last year to finalize the divorce. Maybe i shouldn't have done this but I looked her up on myspace and facebook. Even googled her. And i looked at friends lists of people she knew and there is no social network page of her to be found. I thought I would find her easy, but its like she totally went off the grid. At some point she was updating her page everyday and communicating with friends & family. You would think she'd continue doing that now.

Any girl I date that does her homework could find out my ex-wifes name, google her and find my picture! I have no problem with any girl knowing I use to be married, but I would think its psychologically damaging for a woman to see the man she desires putting a ring on some other woman!

Any thoughts? Should I be worried? Is there anything I can do/should do? I'm ready to move on, but it just confounds me that picture is still up!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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KarmaSutra

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My ex-wife still keeps clinging to past memories of us too, via Facebook.

Nothing you can do about it so you can't waste a minute of your time thinking about it.
 

Desdinova

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I've got the same thing. There's pics of me and my ex up on her profile and her mom's profile. Her mom also hasn't removed the family picture from her living room. It's just something that seems to come with the territory.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Slickster

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Sounds to me like she's just let the page go dead and probably doesn't care.

In this day and age there are probably lots of pics of you that you don't even know about lurking around.

I wouldn't read too much into it.
 
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