"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Ex- what do I do?

juan95

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this girl broke up with me on the last day of first semester-
school starts this week, and since I'm relatively new, we have a lot (a *lot*) of mutual friends. How should I handle this? I've been doing NC since the day of breakup.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Just play it cool, be cordial if you see the ex. Hello, how are you, that's it. No long discussions.

Be above the situation. Speak graciously about her with others even if you're pissed (very important). Your friends will respect you even if (and perhaps especially if) she has been blabbing away about the relationship. They will observe your class and respect you tremendously for it.
 

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Atom Smasher said:
Just play it cool, be cordial if you see the ex. Hello, how are you, that's it. No long discussions.

Be above the situation. Speak graciously about her with others even if you're pissed (very important). Your friends will respect you even if (and perhaps especially if) she has been blabbing away about the relationship. They will observe your class and respect you tremendously for it.
this. cool & classy
 
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