Ex unblocked me...

[Hyper2010]

Hi. Just notice that my ex whom I've been NC with for about a week has unblocked me on facebook, and also her public updates which include events, pictures , statuses featuring us both are still there. She hasn't deleted them....

Im New to this....any idea why she would unblock and keep everything?

 

[j0504s]

try and catch your attention...put up the facade that shes ok...try and make you jelous...its a game and a trick dont fall for it....stay as no contact...she will go out of her way try and make you react...sit back ignore find a new plate, then give to her good...just stay N/C you will be golden!

 

[mikey2012]

Hi. Just notice that my ex whom I've been NC with for about a week has unblocked me on facebook, and also her public updates which include events, pictures , statuses featuring us both are still there. She hasn't deleted them....

Im New to this....any idea why she would unblock and keep everything?

Who gives a fvck. You broke up. Delete forget her and move on unless you a beta AFC phag who wants to get bak with her. Grow a set.

 

[TheException]

I've been NC with for about a week

This is why^

Without knowing the details/circumstances of your relationship, NC makes chicks nuts after a breakup. Shes used to the guy blowing up her phone, apologizing, and asking for her back. A week can feel like a long time sometimes, and shes probably missing you, so she unblocked to stalk you.

Still, I agree with the others. Keep going NC until she contacts you(if you desire to get back with her). If not just delete the number if you feel the urge to creep on her profile is too great.

 

[Hyper2010]

The circumstances were I gave up challenge, let guard down, talked about future etc...the first genuine relationship she had in 4 years. Everyone before me was a FB and likely what this new fella is as she has reached a point of emotional chaos where she confused sex with love. Your right I'd been chasing, borderline harassing under panic mode for 2 weeks

 

[om1xr]

When it comes to girls men have the most valuable currency : ATTENTION is what makes her go nuts when you go no contact
OP she did that because she miss your attention and when you didn't give her any her fragile ego got hurted and she is an EX so consider her a memory and nothing more so keep you integrity and forget her

 

[j0504s]

this may help you

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?p=2031275#post2031275

 

[DragonBlood]

She unblocked just to stalk your updates. Figure out where/who all that attention is going too.

Shes not really interested, just curious and confused. Stay the course man your doing great.

 

[Swampcamel]

Facebook allows you to go stalker status, you'll make yourself crazy without unfriending her. IMO, NC won't help you unless you delete her from your phone, your facebook, everything.

 

[Pardner]

Why do you still have her as a friend?

 

[1-800-HellNo]

If you still haven't figured it out yet:

Delete her.
It will make things so much easier for you.
I did it with my ex.

Then I deleted her friends.
Then I blocked updates from anyone who would be with her, posting pics of her or even heavily reminded me of her.

The last part was strictly just to make things easier on me, because at the time i did not want to even see her face.

She unblocked you so she can stalk you, not so you can see her stuff.
Are you gonna give her the power to decide how much info she can get about you?

You are going to let HER decide?

Just delete.


Edit: it isn't even about controlling what she sees. If you do the steps I said it will make getting over her a lot easier, because you won't be bombarded with the trivial **** she posts on FB, or have those constant reminders that she is somewhere, without you.

btw, girls rarely use FB to show the bad parts of their lives. They will only post the very best, exciting things. They use it to try and show how great they are, which is pretty much why FB exists anyway.
There are no positives to keeping her on your friends list.

 

[MikeOck]

When you "block" and then "unblock" someone who was your Fakebook friend, they are no longer on your friend list by default.

Which leads to only one thing here: The op has been looking at his ex's page. Do yourself a favor and stop looking. If you can't resist, block her yourself. Absolutely nothing good will come out of cyber stalking her and just so we are clear, looking at her page is breaking no contact.

 

[Hyper2010]

Yes I have blocked her. She sent me a message other day asking why I'd added a certain girl as a friend

 

[GotED?]

Just you still 'SPYING' on her means you have already lost the NC because you have no OPTIONS other than her.

Go fixate your Pavlov The Dog conditioning on other women please.

Save yourself all this game playing and figuring out what is not and what is that.

Exodus

 

[Hyper2010]

Good posts guys. I guess I need to go out, be myself, meet other 'plates' and generally live my life rather than worry/think what she doing, or generally worry about insignificant things like why she blocked then unblocked me on Facebook. Life is too short

 

[Hyper2010]

By the way, has anyone actually bought Doc Loves the System?

 

[Dust 2 Dust]

I own a copy of it. A lot of the terminology and theories used on this site come straight from his book. The System for me was like opening Pandora's box. Every stupid mistake I had ever made with women was laid bare in front me. In his book he says "You won't be fooled again." The System isn't just a book you read once and put down. Doc says to read 20 pages everyday until you've read it 15 times and internalized all the rules and theories.

If you want to read something similar to the System then read Anti-Dumps Machine. It's like a watered down version of the system.

 

[Dust 2 Dust]

Here's an excerpt from the System.

Back (You can't Go)

"Second time around shame on me.You may watch a soap opera or read an article about a couple remarrying or reuniting after she almost killed the guy (all beingforgotten!). It might work on TV or the big screen, but it doesn't work on"the street."
Tom can't go back to Caprice because of all the bloodletting and
resentment. They had their time together, and to go back is to go back to
all the issues that turned them off to begin with -- reasons that still exist!
It's just a waste of energy and time to beat the proverbial "dead horse."

You always hear about the one Hollywood couple who is so happy
the second time around. You never hear about the million other real-life
couples who also tried to "re-make it" but only ended up where they
started - hating each other. Just think of the girls those guys might have
met if they had clean slates. The Reality Factor says that when you go
back, you go back to a dirty slate.
You can't go back because there is only now and the future - what's
done is done. Men who believe that with enough time a woman will "see
the light" still believe in tooth fairies -- and that you can go back!
Remember, you can't go back to an ex because:
1. She will get rid of you (again).
2. She hasn't changed.
3. She is going to hurt you some more.

 

[Hyper2010]

Very true things.

As an update, was just in the park with my twins and she was there with her kid. Completely blanked her and concentrated on having fun with my kids. Didn't look at her or get bothered by it really, but could see her half glancing from corner of my eye

 

[Hyper2010]

Feeling stronger now