"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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ex trying to 'buy' her back

Columbia

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ive been with my current girlfriend for about three months, and throughout that time she has been getting advances from several other guys, including two of her exes. tbh i dont give a f***; i mean the girl is a solid 8 with a smoking body and so you'd expect that sort of thing, and she's refusing these guys point blank in any case.

however, her birthday is coming up, and she learned from a friend that one of her exes (the more persistent of the two) has bought her a present worth several hundred euros. again, this doesnt bother me, because i know that the AFC is going to spend all this cash putting her in a good mood whereas im going to spend at most 30-40 euros, and at the end of the night she's going to be crawling into my bed while he jacks it downstairs (we're having a house party).

i would just like to ask how you guys would handle this, both in the run up to her birthday and if im in the room when she opens the gift and gets the 'big surprise'? i could just be cool with it, but the guy is beginning to think that he 'has a chance' and id rather just do some simple thing that makes him stand back and go "well..sh!t"

so far ive been poking light fun of it, just basically calling it for what it is. such as any time she gets playfully mad at me, ill say "sh!t. what if i spend 400 euros on you? will that make you like me again?:rolleyes: "

any input? am i going about this the right way or would you recommend something completely different?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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DJDamage

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You are doing fine, don't change anything.

Although your girl is walking a fine line here which personally doesn't sit well with me. Accepting expensive gifts from Exe's whom she dumped and she knows they want her back, while her boyfriend is still around is kinda troubling.

Listen to your gut feeling on this one.
 

The Deacon

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Yeah, I agree with damage. It's pretty lame he's buying her expensive gifts. It's even lamer that he's not with her. That guy's not really competition.
 

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DJDamage said:
Accepting expensive gifts from Exe's
Who cares if she accepts it, she probably doesnt want to hurt the little chumps feelings anymore.

If she is acting totally cool and rejecting them, the ex's, whats the problem? there isnt one.

OP; You are doing everything cool, just dont ever act pouty or jealous about it. If you befriend the ex' or atleast act cool towards him it will even make you look more secure and confident, rather than trying to ridicule him.

Who cares if he thinks he has a chance. It only matters how she acts.
 

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If her ex is buying her any present anyways, there's probably little chance she still has feelings for him. Buying a girl expensive presents when she isn't your girlfriend is a sign of desperation, and girls smell it like men smell pvssy. If anything, this is going to put you way above him on the pedastool.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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and if sh*t happens, and she falls for the expensive gift and goes back to him, she's a golddigger not worth it. Don't think u have to worry, though.
 

DonJuan11

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Columbia said:
however, her birthday is coming up, and she learned from a friend that one of her exes (the more persistent of the two) has bought her a present worth several hundred euros. again, this doesnt bother me, because i know that the AFC is going to spend all this cash putting her in a good mood whereas im going to spend at most 30-40 euros.
30,000 - 40,000 euros? Is it me or is that alot of money?
 

DJDamage

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Andromax said:
Who cares if she accepts it, she probably doesnt want to hurt the little chumps feelings anymore.
I still say the EX should not be in the picture. Any girl that still keeps the EX around is messing around with his head including her boyfriend's head and make everyone into a fool.

Whatever happened to respect?! oh that's right women these days should have their cake and eat it too and as long as you get to hit that everything she does is alright....:rolleyes:
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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