EX Trouble

[jpm565]

First off I dated a friend 4 years ago for 2 months then she left me but still wanted to be friends well here we are 4 years later after multiple failed wussie attempts to get her back i stopped talking to her out of the blue, one day her and her sister came to my house and the sister told her to tell me or she would, she told me she loved me more then a friend and she wanted a second chance at it well like the wussie i use to be i caved telling her that i still loved her, 2 days later she said we were just friends again so i said ok whatever that's fine with me well that brings us to present date i stopped talking to her again

2 nights ago she was staying at her boyfriends brothers house with her boyfriend and a good friend of hers well her friends boyfriend her boyfriends brother called out one of my best friends to fight, he was out manned 3 to 1 and he asked me if i would fight along side him being the friend that i am i threw my shoes on and said lets go have some fun it wasn't until i got down their i realized that i would be the one fighting her boyfriend long story short the *****'s ran from us after they brought baseball bats to the fight thinking they were going to scare us well of coarse my ex started flipping out because i was a supposed friend yet i was going to fight her boyfriend i laughed turned around got back in the car and we sat their for 10 minuets while my friend and her boyfriends brother talked i ignored any attempts at contact with her even a she was yelling at me through the door,

Well her friend texted me the next day after my ex left. small talk at first then asked me why i hated my ex and why i wouldn't talk to her,i told her that my ex treated me like **** for the past 4 years why should i talk to her at that time she proceeded at bleeding her hart out that my ex is confused she talks about me all the time and the night of the fight she was all up on her boyfriend to make me jealous and talk to her,

i told her well i dont care her petty attemps at making me jealous failed i said im not talking to her because she treats me like **** when shes around so i refuse to talk to her (fully knowing this would get back to my ex)

The only thing is I do still love her should i even try and talk to her or should i just let her go and see what happens an answer will be greatly appreciated

 

[KontrollerX]

There's so much wrong with this post I don't even know where to begin.

I'll do my best though so here goes...

"here we are 4 years later after multiple failed wussie attempts to get her back"

YOU'VE WASTED 4 YEARS OF YOUR FVCKING LIFE ON A WORTHLESS B!TCH WHO DOESN'T GIVE A FVCK ABOUT YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

*Breathes deeply*

Alright now I'm calm lol.

Seriously though man what the fvck were you thinking?

Don't you value your life at all or think you deserve anything better? Don't you think you can do better than this head game's playing girl whose friendzoned you for the past four years??

Also don't you realize you have a huge part in all of this in that its not actually her fault you've been obsessing over her for four years rather it is your own?

It is your own because you have an inability to move on when confronted with a sh!tty unwinnable undesireable situation.

Most guys who find themselves in the same situation might rationalize it away with well I'm deeply in love with my oneitis and that may be true but it usually goes much deeper than that and what I mean is most guys who find themselves in these situations have an inability to generate fresh new options for themselves so they cling to that one woman who in the past gave intimacy to them in hopes that she will once again so they do not have to do the harder yet more ultimately rewarding work of confronting the big scary and often empty world and starting a new and finding a new better partner for themselves.

A lot of AFC's have a fear they won't be able to find another girl or a girl that makes them feel the same way etc but I'll tell you right now regardless of how she makes you feel or made you feel in the past because of your rose colored glasses of supposed love you ignore the fact that she has friendzoned you for the past four years and only even began to show interest in you once again when you finally removed your attentions and ego gratifications to her that made themselves manifest in your wussy pleadings to her to take you back.

She is wrong for you ultimately because she does not really love you.

When you remove attention and ego reinforcements from her she then comes crawling back begging for you but what she wants isn't you, its the validation that she is still desireable and sexy enough to have you pleading and chasing after her. For you to not do that is an alien concept to her that makes her feel strange and makes her feel like sh!t and fools her into thinking hey maybe I loved so and so after all but she is misinterpreting the loss of her ego drug as love and you saw that once you went back to pleading she again went ice cold on you because her familiar ego gratifications returned with your whinings.

Also these friends you hang around with...getting you into potentially fatal alteractions involving baseball bats? What the fvck is wrong with you man? Seriously. That sh!t isn't cool. Its stupid.

Find new friends. Please.

"Well her friend texted me the next day after my ex left. small talk at first then asked me why i hated my ex and why i wouldn't talk to her,i told her that my ex treated me like **** for the past 4 years why should i talk to her at that time she proceeded at bleeding her hart out that my ex is confused she talks about me all the time and the night of the fight she was all up on her boyfriend to make me jealous and talk to her"

Jealousy games too? Very nice.

Your ex is one million red flags flying in the breeze.

She is cancer to your life and nothing else.

Also you need to take responsibility if you haven't already for wasting four years on her.

You have to realize that in life you have the power to walk away from undesireable unbeneficial scenarios and you must exercise that power even in situations where it may be painful for you to do so as its part of what makes you a mature adult with his head on his shoulders as opposed to a fvcking idiot.

So in short know that she had no power to keep you begging after her for all those years, rather you gave it to her, you made that choice.

The story isn't over for you though as you can make a new choice today.

Walk away and find a new girl who is truly worthy of your love and start treating yourself better too bro.

This story sickened me.

You can do better than this with your life.

 

[Captain]

This girl totally controls you. Forget about her, don't talk about her again, don't try to get her back (it won't work), don't get back with her even if she wants to.

Read the DJ Bible (link below.) It'll improve your quality of life.