"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Tomorrow will be 2 weeks of officially my girl breaking up with me. She really seemed like she didn't want anything to do with me, wouldn't even look at me after... for a few days. We work together, at first she wanted nothing to do with me, then she was ok, but got pissed at everything, and the past two times I have seen her she has flirted with me, laughed when I spoke, and all that jazz... weird...

Tonight she was at work, I am off, and she randomly texts me saying "Hey =) lol, what are you doing?"

When we broke up she said that would "try again" but I figured i didn't think she was for real on that. She gave me lame excuses, saying that she has no time for a BF, and that she doesn't feel the same...

I WAS hurt, but I got over it. I DID want her back, but haven't been so sure of that... and now.. I don't know what to think.

Backstory- we met up because we work together. One day her and friend were going out they figured they would just pop up at my place and drag me along. I was cool with it, I mean, who does want to cruise around the city with two ladies? After flirting with the chick a lot, and getting positive results, she started texting me saying things like "Hey =) what are you doing?" for a while. I knew she liked me, and I knew she was hurting when she split up with me.. but.. if she wants me back, should I go back to her?

I still remember that hurt... damn. She has no right to play with someones feelings... at all.

I haven't texted her back yet, and don't plan on it either, but I have to work with her tomorrow. I guess I will see what happens.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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don't go back to her.... Put major space between you and her and for fck sake if she turns up with her friend unanounced tell them ur busy instead of tagging along like an afc.

Ask yourself this question...does this girl deserve your time and energy after she has dumped you then ignored you ?

If she wants back in make her earn it.
 

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Well she did that at first, thats how we hooked up... that was before. So its been over an hour and she texts me again, so finally I just say "whats up?" and she texts me back and says "sooo... what you up to?"

I think I am going to make up an excuse, its like 10:30 here, so I am just gonna tell her about to go to sleep (even though.. I'm not...) but whatever...

Your 100% right, she can't just start texting me and expect me to take her back... not at all... I am pissed that she is texting me stupid questions in the first place... !!!
 

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don't tell her anything about what you're up to....stop texting her full stop. Shut her out completely until she begs for another chance. Even then she may be just looking for an ego stroke so you need to be careful and make her prove herself to you again....
 

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Yeah. All I told her was that I was going to bed early... because I am busy tomorrow. I can't trust her... :-\
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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