Ex texted...Is this a good way to go about things?

[zrammbo]

I reached out to my ex last week and texted and asked her how she's been and if everything's ok with bills, it was a short 4-5 text conversation. But yesterday she sent me a text at 1 am saying:

"I'm high af i was afraid but f*ck it i think about you alot.i know that we could never be together again i just wanna say i love you. you don't need to text back. it was hard enough to send this"

Now to be honest I do still love her and was expecting to get back together with her eventually. I didn't text anything back because I figured I'd finish getting myself together first, I'm about to move into my own place in a month and once I accomplished that I was gonna invite her over to smoke and chill though and build from there. Is that a good way to go about things?

 

[Poon King]

What part of "We could never be together again" did you miss genius?

Any woman who ever tells me that is dead to me. You have no power in this relationship and if you go back to her.. you have no dignity or self-respect either.

Time to meet some new girls. She was probably gargling some other guy's jizz when she sent you that text. Stop being a sucker bro. WAKE UP and move on.

Tough love.

 

[zrammbo]

What part of "We could never be together again" did you miss genius?

Any woman who ever tells me that is dead to me. You have no power in this relationship and if you go back to her.. you have no dignity or self-respect either.

Time to meet some new girls. She was probably gargling some other guy's jizz when she sent you that text. Stop being a sucker bro. WAKE UP and move on.

Tough love.

I've already been meeting other girls. I don't see why I wouldn't have any power. No need to be a ****

 

[El Payaso]

She's an ex for a reason. You don't go into your trash to look for food to eat. You go to the grocery store and buy some food.

 

[zrammbo]

Yeah but the reason we aren't in a relationship is because I had personal things I needed to work on but I see what you're saying though.

 

[Between_The_Lines]

I reached out to my ex last week and texted and asked her how she's been and if everything's ok with bills, it was a short 4-5 text conversation. But yesterday she sent me a text at 1 am saying:

"I'm high af i was afraid but f*ck it i think about you alot.i know that we could never be together again i just wanna say i love you. you don't need to text back. it was hard enough to send this"

Now to be honest I do still love her and was expecting to get back together with her eventually. I didn't text anything back because I figured I'd finish getting myself together first, I'm about to move into my own place in a month and once I accomplished that I was gonna invite her over to smoke and chill though and build from there. Is that a good way to go about things?

"...but no, please do... please text me back with something, anything that tells me that you're devastated, crying, wishing I would run back to you. Please tell me you're suffering..."

Text her back with ........nothing. That's right - nothing... unless you're cool with being demoted to emotional tampon status. If you're cool with that, keep those lines of communication open brother.

 

[zrammbo]

"...but no, please do... please text me back with something, anything that tells me that you're devastated, crying, wishing I would run back to you. Please tell me you're suffering..."

Text her back with ........nothing. That's right - nothing... unless you're cool with being demoted to emotional tampon status. If you're cool with that, keep those lines of communication open brother.

That makes sense, thanks.

 

[mikey2012]

Texting her first was a wrong move.

 

[zrammbo]

Texting her first was a wrong move.

Yeah I wasn't sure about that, she had texted me the beginning of January saying happy belated birthday, and all I said was thanks. I was wondering how she was but didn't get around to texting till the week after.

 

[mikey2012]

Yeah I wasn't sure about that, she had texted me the beginning of January saying happy belated birthday, and all I said was thanks. I was wondering how she was but didn't get around to texting till the week after.

Listen . If you want any chance of getting her back but I see no reason why you want to because never try and keep someone who doesn't want to keep you then you got to go NC . No texting no peeping nothing . Make her feel she lost you . Don't initiate. If she texts first then escalate . If she doesn't then go NC again .
Read this
http://www.blackdragonblog.com/2014/10/12/important-ignore-breakup/

 

[GS750]

That's a quality article. I read it a while back. Blackdragon knows his stuff.

 

[zrammbo]

Listen . If you want any chance of getting her back but I see no reason why you want to because never try and keep someone who doesn't want to keep you then you got to go NC . No texting no peeping nothing . Make her feel she lost you . Don't initiate. If she texts first then escalate . If she doesn't then go NC again .
Read this
http://www.blackdragonblog.com/2014/10/12/important-ignore-breakup/

Yeah that's what I gathered might might have been the best approach from what I've read here, I figured the fact that I wasn't the first one to say they loved the other person or that I missed them put me at the advantage.

 

[.Bing.]

Always let an ex reach out to you. Her text is a blow off telling you she is not interested.

 

[Newby 15]

Sorry, no chance of starting up things again after that reply. Keep hitting up new better prospects than an old ex with no previous contact.

What part of "We could never be together again" did you miss genius?

Any woman who ever tells me that is dead to me. You have no power in this relationship and if you go back to her.. you have no dignity or self-respect either.

Time to meet some new girls. She was probably gargling some other guy's jizz when she sent you that text. Stop being a sucker bro. WAKE UP and move on.

Tough love.

Is that really necessary acting like a d!ck to someone looking for genuine advice? Makes you sound like you're trying too hard to be some kind of alpha on the net.

 

[mikey2012]

Sorry, no chance of starting up things again after that reply. Keep hitting up new better prospects than an old ex with no previous contact.



Is that really necessary acting like a d!ck to someone looking for genuine advice? Makes you sound like you're trying too hard to be some kind of alpha on the net.

Op needed a slap inthe face imo

 

[Greasy Pig]

Her text was purely an attempt at validation, hoping you would gush over her with how you love her too and can't spend another minute without her.
She just wanted her ego stroked, nothing more. Don't fall for it. Continue NC.

 

[zrammbo]

Sorry, no chance of starting up things again after that reply. Keep hitting up new better prospects than an old ex with no previous contact.



Is that really necessary acting like a d!ck to someone looking for genuine advice? Makes you sound like you're trying too hard to be some kind of alpha on the net.

I'm not trying to be an "alpha" on sosuave.net, how can I pllay alpha on a site like this? I see maybe I should have took the time to incllude more details maybe not, but everybodys replies were appreciated.

 

[zorg198]

Brother,

I'm aware of your situation because i was in the same thought... i am almost 60 days NC with my ex which i cried, loved, miss every day and still i am. in the end you guys broke up. there was a reason for this breakup... if she loved you enough she were with you even with your personal problems. go NC and forget about her , there is nothing more to say.

Joe.

 

[zrammbo]

Brother,

I'm aware of your situation because i was in the same thought... i am almost 60 days NC with my ex which i cried, loved, miss every day and still i am. in the end you guys broke up. there was a reason for this breakup... if she loved you enough she were with you even with your personal problems. go NC and forget about her , there is nothing more to say.

Joe.

Yeah that makes sense, thanks zorg198.