ex teaching my kid head games

[glass half full]

My Ex is the best head game player I've known.
She rarely spends time with our kid, which makes her want to more.

when she comes back here, she has an attitude. She treats me to the same head game her mom used against me for 19 years.

She will say a little about the weekend, then when I ask her to tell me a little more (mind you I'm very nice to her about this), I get told "I don't know what you're talking about." This has always been a patent line used by my wife to shut me down. Total Denial. She's a fvcking expert at it. And now my 14yo is learning it. All I can really do at this point is just walk away, and stay away for three days or so, then she slowly straightens up. Any ideas how to deal with this, besides going over there and going "postal"?

 

[glass half full]

I've had this already in larger, more aggravating circumstances from her boys from her prior marriage. Thank GOD I don't have to deal with them anymore.
When it's happening to my kid, well you know...

 

[parkthebus]

Sounds like you can handle the behaviour but the mum is still going to poison your child's future interactions with people. Only option I can see is to Garner hour child's loyalty, turn her against the mother and keep their contact to a minimum. If the mother does not benefit the child on the whole, do this.

 

[glass half full]

I understand, however since my daughter sees her mom so little, it makes my girl want to do her mom's bidding more. It's how her mom works, it's how her mom played me with sex and anything else i ever wanted. Less attention made me try harder and harder. My ex-wife feeds off this.

It's the mom's method of manipulation. Had I known this before I knocked her up I would have totally bailed!!

I Was with her for five years before we made my kid.

Men, take note...it's a trap!!! A woman can hide her true self for a long time.

 

[Young OG]

Sounds kind of like what I'm dealing with. My daughter goes to her mom's only on the weekends. She doesn't even want to go and asks to stay with me. When she comes back, she acts different towards me and my parents for the first couple days. Sometimes she will say things like her mom and blow up easily. She will slam doors when she gets mad. Her mom used to do this and also break things in the house when she got mad. She (my ex) once threw a bowl at a 60 inch lcd tv and broke it. I am worried but I don't think she will turn out like her mom. We just need to stay strong and raise them the best we can. Unfortunately we can't keep them from there mom, but we can teach them what behavior is right and wrong.

 

[YawataNoKami]

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