"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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EX sitauation. Oneitis maybe?

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I've never had much problem finding girls for casual things, (I have found the sosuave website, though, a goldmine of information). I did however have a girlfriend up until August time. It wasn't a long relationship, but it was with a girl who I'd resisted commiting to for a long time. However we had slept together on and off for six months or so. Everything was fine until she rang me one morning crying and saying she had kissed a guy (this didn't bother me it seemed as much as it did her, though i was a bit pissed off) and she split up with me, saying she didn't know what she wanted. Stupidly, forgetting play it cool and do everything advised, I pressurized (never begged though) and fought against this indecision. It didn't help matters over the next few months, though we met and stupidly slept together one more time.
She kept contact with me quite regularly for a few months. Yet the last few weeks we gone into a stage where we still talk every few days over the net. I initiate most convos. Part of me still wants her back, (though I've been seeing other girls since we split) because I've never known anyone so fun to be with, or as romantic or tender as her.

What can I do? Is there a way to improve the situation and become mates with her with the possibility of something in the future? And furthermore, has anyone got any tips for talking to people on msn/yahoo that kind of thing? The form of communication interests me

Thanks D.Js
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Dude, chatting online for the next 5 years will get you absolutely nowhere. Ask her to meet you in person. But even then, don't expect much. She dumped you. I don't see why she would like you more now than she did in August.
 
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You need to disappear for a bit. Your too available and she knows it. If you walk away for a while, then she might come crawling back to you. Or you just might realize that there are other girls who are out there waiting to meet you.

Guys have a hard to letting go of girls they have high interest in, especially when the girl doesn't have an equal level of interest. Don't be one of those guys.



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Good advice guys. I'm gonna try do that for a while :)
 
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