Ex sends sorry and...

[DonJuanit0]

So, it's been ages since I have written anything in this forum and I find myself back here asking for some ego boost?!? Here's the story…

I was in relationship with this girl 2 years ago for 1.5 year. Our relationship was full of ups and downs, we fought, we had great sex, we fought again, and in the end, when I found myself acting worst than an AFC, I run away! Even changed country lol! Seriously, after we broke up I had an opportunity for studying abroad and I just rushed into it! It paid well because soon I'll have a good degree and I feel really good for myself! Before I leave for England where I am now, I found another girl with which I broke up 3 weeks ago! The thing is, that yesterday, the first girl sent me a message asking sorry for what happened back then. She had serious issues with her family (her mother was in jail, but she is out now) so the whole thing was going wrong cause of her situation and my infatuation. We started talking and we haven't stopped since! lol. I feel so nice talking again with her! When we broke up I was really bad, devastated, so I have my hesitancy. The thing is, she broke up like 1 month ago, which I learnt from a mutual friend. I saw her ex boyfriend and he is like a male model!! I believe that I have all the standards for acting like an Alpha, or a grown up male if you want, but I still feel intimidated by him! I will be back in my country in 2 weeks and she wants us to meet but I feel strange that he looks like that. I'm afraid that maybe she does all that because she is hurt by him. Although her messages shows that she had and have feelings for me, I can't be sure that she does all that because she actually missed me and obviously I can not ask her! I can not say to her, "I know you just broke up, are you trying to use me as a rebound?". I am not even sure what I want to do, but knowing myself I believe that I will see her, and I will fall for her again, maybe not like back then but I will want to do something again! Any suggestions on how to learn if she wants me as a rebound or any hit on the head that looks is not all that matters? I am handsome as well, but he was really like a male model...

 

[TheException]

I saw her ex boyfriend and he is like a male model!!

but I still feel intimidated by him!

but I feel strange that he looks like that.

but he was really like a male model...

The real problem^

You're wishy washy and unsure of yourself which spells disaster no matter what you decide to do with the ex gf. Comparing yourself to others is a waste of time and not translatable considering there are many qualities that make up an alpha male....and looks is not a prerequisite.

As far as with the ex....just remember.....you broke up for a reason. Its always better to go out and meet new women than try to rekindle a flame of the past.

 

[DonJuanit0]

yes, you cleared out the real problem! I know I shouldn't compare myself to others especially on the looks but still… It's difficult not to! I guess I have more to learn.

I completely agree with you on finding new gf and not going back to the past, but I feel really vindicated that she turned back with a sorry and I enjoy it maybe more than I should!