Ex-s

[Hamurabimbi]

I'm in a committed relationship (would consider marriage with my GF.). Many of my ex-s are still friends. Some, even though they are in 'committed relationships', are aggressively forward. To the point where their conduct is X-rated (if they were men, they'd be on HR's watch list). I still find them attractive and would be love a fling. However, I l know that would be really bad idea. Some of them work in the same organization with me and arrainge to work on projects with me. (not sure how they are able to do that) Oddly, I iiterally dream about some of them. I want to remain friends with them (including my Zoomer ex- who I met through Tinder) but I can't risk my relationship nor job (just got promoted). Again. I want to remain friends, but not do the deed. At this point, If I were to cut them off, It would be a severe deteriment to my career.. Any advice would be appreciated. Am also fending off client advances (but that is probably a positive for my organzization).

 

[Stanley]

You already know what most guys will say in this scenario...

-Let the past be the past
-Don't shid where you eat
-Don't stay 'friends' with your ex
yada yada...

Friends is too far, best to think of them as acquaintances and keep things 'professional' moving forward. I've been in your shoes at job (albeit not a career) and after awhile it grew tiring and I left. My next job (and current) I had a short-lived stint with a girl at work and it only created a negative ripple effect. My worklife sucked major a**. Best you can do now is tame your boner and keep your head down and remain civil.

 

[member160292]

Your exs have a higher position than you? Why would cutting them off affect your career?

I think you’re in the Bay Area, these women move on fast. Don’t mistaken their flirt for anything more.

There must be something that your GF is not satisfying, aside from the Urge for something new. If that’s the case, I don’t think you’re ready to be monogamous.

 

[redskinsfan92]

I'm in a committed relationship (would consider marriage with my GF.). Many of my ex-s are still friends. Some, even though they are in 'committed relationships', are aggressively forward. To the point where their conduct is X-rated (if they were men, they'd be on HR's watch list). I still find them attractive and would be love a fling. However, I l know that would be really bad idea. Some of them work in the same organization with me and arrainge to work on projects with me. (not sure how they are able to do that) Oddly, I iiterally dream about some of them. I want to remain friends with them (including my Zoomer ex- who I met through Tinder) but I can't risk my relationship nor job (just got promoted). Again. I want to remain friends, but not do the deed. At this point, If I were to cut them off, It would be a severe deteriment to my career.. Any advice would be appreciated. Am also fending off client advances (but that is probably a positive for my organzization).

Dipping the pen in company ink is a recipe for drama

 

[Murk]

Get them all pregnant at the same time

 

[Macadellic]

When someone else decides to wife up my exs