ex problems

[thisismyholiday]

my ex and i broke up about 8 months ago. we kept in touch and remaind "friends" one night we had a conversation about being friends with benefits and we both decided yes. I still had feelings for her and she knew but we went along with it anyway. we hooked up a couple times and each time we hooked up she acted as if we were still dating, like playfully going through my phone getting jealous about me talking to other girls, taking pics on the phone of us kissing etc. and she said once "don't expect anything to come of this....at least not now" and i was like oh **** down the road there might be a chance.

so we hooked up on halloween again, she acted just like we were dating but even more now, like we never missed a step in our relationship and that night was amazing.

i decided to tell her how i felt, i wanted to do it in person but she was always too busy and one day i got irritated and it got her mad. she knew i had something to tell her so she said tell me now or never. so i had to tell her over the phone. anyway i told i loved her and blah blah and she said she's not interested in me and doesn't think we could be friends anymore and the only reason why she acted like that was to make it less awkward ( which i think is total bs) and now she doesn't want to see me again.

what do i do, i love her, and have never felt this way with any other girl and i can't even talk to her now. help a man out guys. she definately is the girl of my dreams, i'm wondering if i can get her back.

 

[lil hooligan]

sh!t test + you = failed

 

[KontrollerX]

You fvcked up a good thing by opening your mouth and saying you loved her.

You could've had a good fvck buddy for a while longer but no you just had to try and be greedy and get more out of this little cvnt.

What she told you was not b.s as women are comfortable being good little actresses and indeed she was acting like your girlfriend for the exact reason she said which was to make things not be awkward.

Its fvcked up for sure but thats what good little professional natural born actresses do and you fell for it.

The only hope you have now of getting her to come back to you is to go complete no contact.

If you meant anything at all to her she will be back drooling for your c0ck sooner or later.

In the meantime you need to try and hook up with other girls to take your mind off of her.

Should she contact you at anytime in the future trying to get a friendship thing going reject that calmly and smoothly and say unless the both of you go back to being fvck buddies or she becomes your girlfriend again you have no reason to hang out together.

If she starts going into insults and shaming by calling you immature or whatever what she then needs to hear is the phone off the hook sound as you will of hung up on her fully disrespecting her as she's done you setting a clear tone that you will not put up with b.s and only want to hear what you want to hear from her or nothing at all.

And in closing this whole situation is why we all regularly tell guys like you that once you and an ex break up its over with, no fvcking friendship, no fvcking hanging around and no bullsh!t at all like remaining fvck buddies.

It didn't work so you move on to greener and newer horizons.

I've only told you how to possibly get her back so that maybe you can and then it will keep failing and perhaps when you finally hit rock bottom and realize this relationship is worthless and unfixable you'll finally go get a good girl for yourself that doesn't play bullsh!t games like this and wants as much of your time as possible.

"what do i do, i love her, and have never felt this way with any other girl and i can't even talk to her now. help a man out guys. she definately is the girl of my dreams"

Well hate to break it to you but clearly this relationship was not blessed by god, Jesus Christ, Zeus and Barack Obama as well as the stars above because if it were she would feel the same about you as you do her and would not be playing games with your heart like this.

Guys like you need to learn to value yourselves more so you come to think so highly of yourself a woman putting you through something like this makes her instantly unattractive to you and completely disqualifies her for you as she clearly does not have your best interests in mind and does not love you at all to act this way.

 

[romangod]

what do i do, i love her, and have never felt this way with any other girl and i can't even talk to her now. help a man out guys. she definately is the girl of my dreams, i'm wondering if i can get her back.

Wonder no longer. You can't get her back and don't bother trying. You played right into her hands and wussed out on her. She's now in total control. Move on.



Cheers!

 

[decades]

you cared a lot more about her than she cared about you. That situational dynamic is a LOSER for you.

 

[thisismyholiday]

thanks but..

thanks for a ll the advice. i know i messed up an awesome arrangement, and i fully accept the consiquences. i am gonna meet other woman and have my fun and i'm going to stop talking to her but.... she has some of my **** that i want, i already said i want it back and she said she'll let me know when she gets it together. its been a couple days, but when i do finally meet up with her to get it is there any advice on how my attiude should be and how i should act. yeah it's sounds lame but whatever, obviously i need help with this

 

[KontrollerX]

Your attitude should be casual with no attempts at chit chat.

You want your stuff back not to make small talk.

If she tries to talk to you about the relationship/fvck buddy situation in any way its a trap.

Meaning she wants you to start blabbering on like an idiot about your mistakes and how you really care for her all that stupid sh!t which will bury you further with her. It doesn't matter how genuine she sounds or if she appears vulnerable its all a trap so don't fall for it. Stay casual and stay all business about getting your stuff back.

Instead direct the conversation back to your stuff and make up some excuse how you have to be somewhere else soon like to a job or whatever and have to try and get your things as quick as possible so you can get out of there.

If she tries to have sex with you know now that this is also a trap meaning she'd want to do this to remember you by one last time before getting you out of her life forever.

Don't you dare give in and fvck her no matter how much you want to.

As...

1. You validate her and she'll never come back to you after that.
2. She has a sweet memory to remember you by awww how precious and yep she totally wins and knows that she can disrespect you and treat you like trash and still use you as a human d!ldo and you love it. You love being her slave and being a piece of trash just for her.

The fact is if you politely decline her offer of sex she may not be able to wrap her mind around it.

A guy denying sex with me???

Oh my god he didn't!!!

Am I not good enough??

These are the insecurity based questions she'll be asking and because she'll be asking them to herself this is what will draw her back to you. Its not a bad thing at all for you to have a woman asking herself these kinds of questions.

Also she will come to respect you as a man for turning down her sex offer because she will come to realize that you demand more out of a woman before you will give her the honor of being up to your nuts in her guts.