"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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For_F

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I dated a coworker who's only part time at work and it got serious/intense quick
Were together for half a year but hung out every day and bla bla. I've never been a big afc, I'm too proud naturally but I did do and feel a lot of deep pathetic things both during and after break up.
Question: it's been a year since break up, I'm doing great now. Have a new girl who is incomparably better in all ways, I spun plates for several months, landed an awesome job etc. We've had about 6 big meetings within the organization to which she was supposed to attend but hasn't come to one. She didn't come to the Christmas or new years party. She has veven dropped shifts when she knows it'll just be us two. Why?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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pdx1138

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who cares?

You shouldn't. You got all that going on and still care what's up with her?

Forget her.
 

gravityeyelids

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For_F said:
We've had about 6 big meetings within the organization to which she was supposed to attend but hasn't come to one. She didn't come to the Christmas or new years party. She has veven dropped shifts when she knows it'll just be us two. Why?

Because it's awkward being around your ex for extended amounts of time.

**** it dude. Move on like you claim you did. Who cares?
 

Peaks&Valleys

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girls are crazy, that's why.

As long as you didn't act weird towards her after the break up, and moved on.....

then she still has an emotional attachment towards you. She either can't be around you because she knows she has feelings for you and it would bring them out. Or, she thinks you will notice, which you did, and make an attempt to contact her, which you're not.
 

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I'm not fixated on her or this situation, just thought I'd type out loud and aee if any dj's have experienced something similar or had some input.

Break up was tough and inspired my move to here and a huge change to my game. So much good came out of this experience which at the time was pretty hard. I feel as if this is at least one up on the whpres who regularly destroy afc's. Perhaps a case sample for men starting their dj journey to read. My ex was your typical attractive dumb b1tch who went through life doing as she pleased.

DJs ruin whpres through living life confidently and successfully.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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