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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

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Ex LTR Acting the Fool Coz of Facebook

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As if im not having a bad enough week with people crashing into my car and my plates dropping like pins at a bowling alley!!!

so last night i changed my facebook saying to smtn like -

"Slickaz loves women SO much..hes gonna get one"

Some other chic, that i dont really contact, but she is HB8 posts msg on my facebook
"yaaay! slick is on the market for a girl..mwaaaaaahhhh"

now i didnt read this.

My Ex LTR has been trying to get back with me and she was planningo n taking me out for a lavish dinner date on my bday.

She texts me

"Read your facebook..nice comments from your future h03s, its been great so far but we shouldnt see each other anymore.."

I text back
"If you're judgin me based on a comment on FB from somebody else..goes to show you dont know me..so ur right..we shouldnt see each other.bye"

Did i do right?
i knew i shouldna picked up communicating with her..but i couldnt resist..now im feelin even worse!



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Ive also noticed im havin a dry spell with approaching..i havent approached any new ones in about a week i think. due to work etc..and i feel wierd when i think about approaching now.lol.

How do you get out of a dry spell?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

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You did ok on the face book thing.

Ive also noticed im havin a dry spell with approaching..i havent approached any new ones in about a week i think. due to work etc..and i feel wierd when i think about approaching now.lol.
Why do you feel wierd?
 

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i think bcoz i havent done it in a minute..i feel that wierd kinda thing that tells you..umm maybe not..i believe ya'll call it fear of approaching..or fear of freezing..lol..i mean i went out last weekend and i saw this gorgeous HB8.5. ive never seen her before..and she walked past me..gave me eye contact..i gave her eye contact..then she took her eyes ofa me..and i couldnt resist checkin her out top to toe..her friend saw me checkin her out and goes.."wooahh! wish sm1 wud check me out like that!..dude u just undressed her wit ur eyes..<or smtn like that>" to which i laughed..but let it slide..
now i know she told the HB8.5 that i was checked her out..because they settled in a spot to dance and HB8.5 kept looking at me..and turnin around..to show me she could shake her a55 right..but me...umm..yeh..

i hope she comes back because i promise im gonna approach..

DAMNIT!

plus sh*t like this bad week is just holdin me back from gettin confident..
 

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Thanks dude...i needed that..just wasnt sure..i guess i was infact suffereing from oneitis..but its partially because she was just not getting out of my life..and i guess the irony is when she found out other women were interested in me <<she doesnt know girls have been sleepin over and ive been on dates etc..>> she wanted to threaten me? i dunno...maybe to see if id come runnin back and dump the other girls...i dunno..

but i wanna get more plates up..im a lil dry today..so lets hope i get some new numbers or dates set up before night fall..

Thanks again bru
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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slickaz

She was right there and you didn't go get it.
:crazy:
 

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slickaz said:
My Ex LTR has been trying to get back with me and she was planningo n taking me out for a lavish dinner date on my bday.

She texts me

"Read your facebook..nice comments from your future h03s, its been great so far but we shouldnt see each other anymore.."

I text back
"If you're judgin me based on a comment on FB from somebody else..goes to show you dont know me..so ur right..we shouldnt see each other.bye"

Did i do right?
You did good, just a little harsh. I wouldn't have defended myself, you are giving her an ego boost when you do that.

"Yes it has been great so far, it's unfortunate you feel that way since I really enjoyed being with you. Take care of yourself and dont' forget to write"
 

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Thanks lads..

JD070 - dude!! you shoulda seen this chic..i mean like..booty look like mcdonald cheese burger buns..just smooth no crease!!...forget restin a cup on it man..ud want the cup to tip just so you could lick the drink of her a55..lol..
i think that thang just kicked the daylights outa my game..hence the *jaw droppin blankness** on me..lol

Thanks again guys..i feel a lil better now that maybe i did do right by not trying to overly defend myself etc <altho donjuan11 is ryt i did a little.>

im goin to let this one go and move to the next chic i can lay my hands on..
 

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Well handled. But.. Do you think you could have made the same reply in a phonecall?

I really can't prove it, but women that get bravado with me via texting/IM always melt like processed cheese on the phone when they hear my voice and end up apologising to me. ;)

Everyone is a tough guy and an AW via the written word after all.
 

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That was a great reply, I don't think you could have come up with one better.
 

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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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