"Ex" is coming to town

[Huffman]

"Hey I'm gonna be in town, you want to hang out etc".

Background:
At the time, I thought "let's give the Girlfriend thing a try... we were having hot sex, I was visiting her on weekends, nice".

But only after a couple of weeks she wanted to have a talk, "how are your feelings", "what are we", "you never call me" etc, and I just didn't have an answer. I'm a bloody emotionless guy, and I never even thought about it. What the hell is that? I feel only the thrill when trying to conquer a girl. I also feel a thrill when we try out new sex positions. That's it though. Guess I just wasn't in love.

I ended up telling her "I think I only wanted to have sex. Sorry for not being clear. It's better if we don't see each other again".

Now she's back. What do you think are the chances she just wants to bang? Don't think she can be my girlfriend and don't want to lead her on. But then again I kinda want to. I'm on a dry spell. It's spring and I bet she's horny as hell..... ugh

You think it's a good idea if I see her?

 

[GotED?]

I think this is a personal decision dependent on the type of man you are (your values, morals, belief systems, etc).

You know you are going to deliberately string your EX along (unless you are honest with her before she comes) emotionally.

I don't believe in collecting karma in this life of mine by using people deliberately and I try to be good and true to everyone I come in contact with, but that is just my own belief system.

A lot of men do it though - and women too, string people along deliberately and it is a painful receiving end. These are called 'Players'. Nothing new really. *yawn*

Good luck.

Exodus

 

[Huffman]

(unless you are honest with her before she comes)

So, before arranging anything, I should send her a text immediately saying "Let's meet, but be warned: I only want to have sex... hot steamy sex" :nervous:

I get you. I'm an honest guy, and I pride myself on it. I certainly won't lie or pretend. Guess I just want a FB, but I realize the chances are really slim.

 

[GotED?]

So, before arranging anything, I should send her a text immediately saying "Let's meet, but be warned: I only want to have sex... hot steamy sex" :nervous:

I get you. I'm an honest guy, and I pride myself on it. I certainly won't lie or pretend. Guess I just want a FB, but I realize the chances are really slim.

Dude, you must be comfortable with your decisions in life as a man without much regrets if possible (this applies to life generally, not just women).

Every decisions comes with consequences and responsibilities, even though it may not be apparently obvious right away (may surface up later in life).

I am not being a hard-arse, but I am 41 so I am a old-phuck. Ask another guy on here in his 20's and you will definitely get 'YEAH, PHUCK HER HARD AND GET ALL YOU CAN GET!!'.

In the end, every man is responsible for his own actions (or inaction).

You must be able to sleep at night, at the end of the day.

Be well.

Exodus

 

[gravityeyelids]

yeah, phuck her hard and get all you can get!!

 

[Johnny Alias]

yeah, phuck her hard and get all you can get!!

Hahaha...

Dude you were already honest with her. This is a booty call. If its not she's delusional with BAD communication skills and that's her problem.

Hit that...

 

[dmvdav]

A girl can make herself believe whatever she wants.
If she says she's in town, that means she wants to see you. You made it clear how you feel before, and the crazy part is that only made her more attracted to you. If she asks you if feel different now, you tell her you feel the same.

But don't be surprised if she fvcks you anyway, and don't be surprised if she still gets sad after.

 

[RedScorpion]

I think as long as you're honest and not being misleading about your intentions, then it should be fine. A friend of mine has that kind of style and they always come back for more. Just don't be surprised if she does try to hook/pull you in again though.

 

[Huffman]

Thanks for the input. I skipped all the pleasantries and told her what I was thinking:
"You're not making it easy for me. You're hot and I'd like to do all kinds of things to you. But you know it would end like last time. Would that really be OK for you?"

To which she replied:
"Of course it would end like last time, and that would be OK. But can we just meet in town, no pressure in any way?"

She was actually in town for a girl's night out, so I took her for coffee before that. What can I say, we have this chemistry. She basically invited me for a weekend out in the countryside (where she lives), and that's exactly what happened last time

She seems pretty mature about it. Wonder if we can keep it like this, or if she's just encouraging me to be an a**hole. Anyway I'm happy we're not pretending.