Ex is calling me

[Gambit2318]

for some reason my ex is either calling me or iming me and telling me about how she is having trouble with her current bf. She is telling me how he lied to her in her face twice in one month. I mean i do care and i don't care but i have a feeling she is going to want to try and get back with me i mean she wasn't the worst gf in the world there were worse but we were constantly on and off with our relationship. Should i just ignore her or just continue to talk with her?

 

[Julian]

Do you like her? If you do then go for it, if not, then dont.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by Gambit2318
for some reason my ex is either calling me or iming me and telling me about how she is having trouble with her current bf. She is telling me how he lied to her in her face twice in one month. I mean i do care and i don't care but i have a feeling she is going to want to try and get back with me i mean she wasn't the worst gf in the world there were worse but we were constantly on and off with our relationship. Should i just ignore her or just continue to talk with her?

Consider the following:
1. You broke up with her for a reason.
2. She's moved on and got a new boyfriend.
3. She's having relationship problems again.
4. She's talking to her EX about her problems (did she do that when you two were dating???)
5. She wasn't the worse girlfriend which leads to guess that she wasn't the best either.

It's your decision whether she is a positive use of your time and effort. It's your choice.

 

[Dust 2 Dust]

Got dumped? Never take her back.

 

[seulaxplaya]

ignore the girl

just tell her this. u reap what u sow. i dont know how ur relationship was but ive been told that by several ex's. and i really dont know where im goin with this. but why bother listening to her problems. she obviously has another dude. and why would u want to help her out with her relationship when she may have not wanted to help ur relationship with her.

 

[Cremasta]

Ex gf - "Gambit, my bf is such a bastard, he does this and this and this and he lies blah blah blah"

Gambit - "Sorry, I don't understand"

Ex gf - " Well, he always... blah blah blah "

Gambit - "No... I don't understand what this has got to do with me"

 

[TesuqueRed]

Let me guess...

1) She picked a wrong guy: current BF. Why he is "wrong" is completely immaterial and of no interest here.

2) She wants out....for whatever reason. You're hearing the justification or the public PR that she's using to justify it to herself and everyone she talks too. Probably ASD stuff...

3) She needs to have a BF for appearances or her own "I'm not a loser" needs.

4) If she dumps current BF, she faces "I'm a loser" status (that's her unconscious perception, no point arguing it, she can't give it up...)

5) Dilemma: she needs to get rid of current-BF but needs a new BF. Anyone recognize monkey-girl pattern here? Dumbass question, of course everyone does!

6) No current prospects on the horizon and she needs to unload current BF pretty soon.

7) Ex-BF (you, dude) were an AFC (I'm guessing here--probably a safe guess) that she could manipulate to a certain extent in the past. You are now an option since no other options appear on the horizon-----OR--there are other options, but she's developing all options to see which ones pan out. You remain an alternate option, a "failsafe" exit.

8) She starts calling and feeling out the situation. You--like an emotional tampon--at the very least sit and listen. Maybe you say nothing--but you listen. You pick up the phone when she calls. She leaves a message and--following common curtesy, which you rigorously follow--return the call. She knows she can proceed.

9) If she gets a green light, she will dump current BF for you--a temporary solution!---while buying time and finding something better.

How's my guess?

 

[DJ_Dork]

If she starts getting kinky with you, get some sex and then turn her into your friend again.

 

[abcd_z]

Originally posted by DJ_Dork
If she starts getting kinky with you, get some sex and then turn her into your friend again.

Puh-lease. From the sound of it, she'd probably maintain her distance, dump her BF while getting a new one (Gambit), then dump him when she'd gotten another one. As for getting 'kinky', she would probably maintain her distance during the entire relationship, using any excuse she could think of.

Personally, I would steer clear of this one. There are plenty of fish in the ocean, etc. etc.

 

[Player_Supreme]

1. sounds like you've already made your decision.
2. think...why would she really be calling you and telling you this crap.
3. are you a biatch that she can come and snatch anytime she wants? Hell no...your a DJ. you take what you want.
4. Let the ho go! If it was ment to be it woulda been...instead of some other dude hitting it and lying to her and getting away with it and now she is hurt and looking for a chump whose shoulder she can whine on...and maybe pay her boyfriend back.....get the point.