"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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ex-girlfriend's gifts to me

DJArlington

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my ex gave me a ton of cards (like she wrote 100+ cards over three years, etc.) and DVDs etc. All that **** reminds me of her - can I just throw it out? She said she did not want me to throw the stuff out and instead just ship it all to her (she lives on the other side of the country). I dont care either way, just wanted to get your opinions on this.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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STR8UP

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The past is the past. Why would you want to hold onto all of that stuff?

My last LTR took it upon herself to use a whole pad of post-it notes to write "I love you" "I miss you" "I'm sorry" and stick them in every last nook and cranny of all of my possessions.

It's been three years and I STILL find those stupid things from time to time. If I ever get a live-in gf again I'm gonna have to explain the situation up front cause who knows how many of those things are still around.
 

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I got a box with old letters from girls all the way back from highschool. But do what you want. who cares what she wants. Its on you.
 

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Keep them and do what you want with them unless it's something she has to pay for or its part of some written agreement. If she wants something to remember you by, she should be coming to beg you to take her back.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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If the DVD's suck, give them away. If they're good keep them. As for the cards, I'd put them in a box and tuck them away somewhere you won't see them for a few years. No sense throwing away memories. You might enjoy reading them when you're older.
 

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DJArlington said:
my ex gave me a ton of cards (like she wrote 100+ cards over three years, etc.) and DVDs etc. All that **** reminds me of her - can I just throw it out? She said she did not want me to throw the stuff out and instead just ship it all to her (she lives on the other side of the country). I dont care either way, just wanted to get your opinions on this.

It looks like you do care hence this thread. I wouldn't pay money to ship that crap to her. Why did you guys break up in the first place? It happens to all of us but it looks like you still have deep feelings for her.
 

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If the break-up was amicable then I'd ship them back to her. If not, burn them.

When I read the thread title, I thought you got some other kind of "gifts" from your ex. :D
 

DJArlington

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It's a long and complicated relationship, we've been on and off for years for various reasons. I do want to commit to her but my family hates her guts and they'll pretty much go nuts if get back together with her (but honestly that's the least of my concerns); additionally, I've had doubts about her because she kept in touch with ex-boyfriends but looking back may be i overreacted. i don't know what's going on anymore. she the type of person who keeps in touch with everyone that was in her life, including ex's so it always put me in a weird position. when we started dating, she flew cross country to say goodbye to one of the guys she previously dated before me, but then she and this guy sometimes email each other - it's all innocent stuff in the emails (i've seen them) - but it bugs me that they are still in touch. i come from the attitude that an ex is an ex, don't stay in touch what's the freaking point. shoot me now.
 

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I can remember fist glancing through it amazed at the number of women this man has amassed throughout the decade. Even more so to my amazement was the fact he was able to get all of his women to unclad themselves for his photo-lens. Not an easy task for a novice. At any rate, a great collage of his triumphs and tribulations in the young age of the seventies, how love has effected his art, the times, and women in general. I was sold on the story. I believed it till the last page.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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